would you forgive and take her back or leave her or what
2007-02-01 08:11:28 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depends on many things. Alot of it depends on you and if you can forgive, and be able to trust her. Has she admitted to what she did was wrong and does she regret it? Sometimes people can easily fall into temptation, Im not saying that it was right of her either. But sometimes we do with out thinking. But if she is completely sorry and really regrets it and wants to contimue with you then you have to ask yourself if your able to forgive and move on. Thats a tough one.
2007-02-01 08:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by beaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something you can only answer yourself. This is such a tough situation i always believe that if the couple is willing to work hard divorce shouldnt be the answer. Do you believe deep down that the cheating is over? I know there is never a valid reason to cheat but try to find out why she wanted someone else, maybe you can start from there. Many people will argue with the fact once a cheater always a cheater, but im a firm believer that people can change. But it all comes down to which is worse losing her just because of a mistake or working hard to keep you marriage alive? Good luck, it will be hard
2007-02-01 16:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by pirategirl1103 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on her level of remorse, and if she were willing to be accountable, and realize what she did hurt u, and was wrong. it would depend on her response once u confronted her about it. if she shows no remorse, and makes no promises, or has no intention of working on it, if u are the only one wanting the reconciliation than u need to leave her. depends alot on her, and where her heart is at. because getting back after a betrayal will be hard work, both have to want the same thing or it won't work.
2007-02-02 19:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wonder where she found the time! My wife (by choice) stays home with our three children and is homeschooling them! I don't know when she would have time to go on-line and find a boyfriend or get the time to sleep with him????
BUT if she did and it was over and she wanted to work on our relationship I would take her back!
2007-02-01 16:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would be filing for divorce and sole custody of the kids.
To me, marriage is a commitment. A sacred one nonetheless. If she is willing to violate her vows then she holds nothing sacred. She certainly doesn't respect you for if she did, she wouldn't be cheating.
Of course, she nobly announced her intentions of going to some motel for some sex with her bf. She didn't? Then she's a liar as well.
If you can live with a liar and a cheat, you are a better man than I.
2007-02-01 16:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by jw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, don't you see the silver lining here. You have a golden opportunity. She went and screwed another dude so this gives you all the reason to go and bang every piece of a** out there that gives it to you. Then she won't have anything to say about it because it was all her fault.
So go ahead and have a bunch of guiltless sex with other women!
2007-02-02 02:50:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends - did she admit it and say that she's sorry and wants to work on the marriage? I may be able to forgive that - but not if she acts like she had a right to it.
2007-02-01 16:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by acholtz@verizon.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's more than an online boyfriend to have slept with him. Kick her to the curb, and find someone respectable.
2007-02-01 16:21:16 · answer #8 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she slept with him, then he wasn't a on line boyfriend. Always forgive, taking her back. Can't help you with that one.
2007-02-01 16:16:55 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't, know it depends on the person. For me, I would probably leave her. I would be thinking: Not only did she hurt me mentaly, but what if she brings home some std from this other person. What if, when they were having sex the condom broke. That tells me she is only thinking about herself and dosen't care for me like that.
2007-02-01 16:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by carlos b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋