He sometimes acts like I owe him something, and always tells me no to yell, but I can only take so much, I cant even remeber the last time he has brought home a 40 hour paycheck!!!! GRRRRR
2007-02-01 07:56:52 · 16 answers · asked by kking 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will never win an argument by yelling. He is rude to you because he does not respect you and is hardened to your shrill voice. Soften your voice and notice how much better he treats you. Then you can actually state your problems and he will listen.
2007-02-01 08:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by dreamgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And your with him because.....
Put your foot down and tell him that in order for this marriage to work he has to stop acting like a boy and become a man. He has to contribute to the household, start acting like a husband or to get out and find himself.
There doesn't seem to be a whole lot of love by the way, seek counseling if kicking him out is too extreme.
2007-02-01 16:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your bread winner is feeling very insecure about himself, and taking it out on you! Great...He's feeling like a failure, but turning it around, and trying to bring you down to his level, which is not very nice. But, you are already feeling that. I would write him a note (send it to work with him), and tell him how you feel, and tell him your aware of what's probably going on within him. But I would also make it clear your no blow up doll without feelings! You do have feelings, and he's hurting them, and your NOT liking it too well. You sort of got the picture don't cha? I think writing him a note would be best, because than he can't cut you off, and he could read the note over, hopefully a hundred times!!! LOL. Good luck!!
2007-02-01 16:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a great hubby most of the time or I just lie to myself pretty good. My husband is so selfish! He just went and spent $700 dollars on a playstation 3 and when I asked him to help with grocery money this week (which I never ask him to help with any household purchasing, I do it all out of my paycheck) he was pissed off at the fact he should help buy food and gave me $20 damn dollars. ##@@###. Maybe they are related. LOL
2007-02-01 16:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Crickett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK he said not to yell so don't yell try talking to him calmly i think if u do that u'll get to him and maybe he feels bad as it is for not bringing home the money and ur making him fell even worst when u talk down to him !
2007-02-01 17:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by amal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear yelling would make matters worse.Try to know what he feels, be cool n compassionate towards him afterall you married him for a reason or two .try to know the real cause behind this behaviour, be supportive talk it out but calmly. good luck.
2007-02-02 04:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a problem also, you yell at him and complain that he doesn't make allot of money! ! ! I would be rude to you also!
Try to remember why you fell in love and why you married, it probably wasn't because of his working 40hours and you probably didn't yell at him back then????
2007-02-01 16:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you should be the one who should be rude, since he's not working enough. Maybe he's fed up with his job and bringing it home. make him feel bad! let him know he makes you feel hurt and upset when he's so mean... and tell him you cry sometimes about it. he SHOULD feel bad about that...
2007-02-01 16:03:31 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he needs to grow up. You need to find someone who will respect you. Why did you marry this guy to begin with. Men do not change. You allow him to treat you this way. Your life is what you make it if you don't like the way you are being treated then change your life. its that simple!
2007-02-01 16:02:06 · answer #9 · answered by jjeano661 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is rude because he doesn't want to take responsibility for him self, and he knows u got his number, and sometimes when we don't know how to handle the stress anymore we do yell. he is rude because he has no respect for u anymore.
2007-02-02 19:48:27 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋