Recently an ex girlfriend of my hubbies contacted my mother in law and she gave my hubby this girls number. Now she is an ex from over fifteen years ago...they were 15/16ish. they have sorta stayed in contact since she moved away but her hubby didn't like it so she stopped talking to him. Well she is now divorced and calling him. I have met her and both me and my hubby agree that she more than likely still has feelings for him, he is a trucker and his run is to the city she lives in and then back every other week. He is there for almost two days, due to waiting for his load, and goes out for coffee with her at least once when he is there. We have talked and he told me that if she tried anything that he would stop seeing her and even talking with her. I believe him, and trust him, but i am still having a hard time dealing with the fact that she may even try something. I am not jealous i just don't like her, please, what can i do? No mean answers or rude ones please.
2007-02-01 07:51:14 · 6 answers · asked by b&g4me 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I told him that i feel this way cause of what happened with my dad, but he can talk with her if he wants and i will get better, but i need some help in how to do that........
2007-02-01 07:54:52 · update #1
I don't know if you can stop worrying! Please, keep in mind it is an excellant thing that your husband tells you when he does have coffee with her and doesn't try to hide it.
I can understand that you trust him--but you don't trust her. That makes a huge difference.
If he still wants to talk with her, as a friend as he has been doing all along, then I wouldn't push the issue too much. I am sure there are a couple of his male friends that you aren't particularly fond of either but he still sees them right?
He already told you that if she tried something he would stop communicating with her altogether.
Honestly, consider yourself lucky that you can have an honest relationship with your husband!
2007-02-01 08:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd be worried, too. I love my husband and trust him, too but it doesn't mean I'd stop worrying. Have you told him that it really upsets you and that you don't feel comfortable with it? I know he'll probably tell you that you're just being crazy but aren't your feelings more important than her? She may try something. It's kind odd, if you want my opinion but just remember, though, it does take 2 to cheat. I'm sorry that I don't have a better answer.
2007-02-01 07:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by Trouble's Mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm.... I dont agree with what everyone else has to say. If this was my husband, I'd be a little worried too.... I mean its bad enough that many women have low self esteem when they are pregnant, but this does nothing to help it. And if you don't like her, you're husband should understand that and not see her anymore.
2007-02-01 08:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by gabriellemelissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you trust him and believe him him...then i dont think you should worry..me on the other hand have a hard time trusting people..i like to investigate..if you are really worried call him..im sure he has a cell phone..and if it still bothers you..i suggest you talk to him about your feelings..and if he loves you..he would respect what you want! good luck
2007-02-01 08:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i totally agree with you you just gotta trust him and believe him and if he cheat he cheat by being worried all the time it wont help or stop him
2007-02-01 07:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by kailey0819 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TRUST TRUST TRUST...
A relationship should be built on trust... if you dont trust him, you shouldnt be with him!!
And if you do.... what are you worried about???
2007-02-01 07:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋