I was repremanded at work and told that this could have lead to termination. Wasn't it the responsibility of the party or parties insulted to approach me first instead of going directly to HR? I'm embarrassed and angry - anyone I showed laughed.
2007-02-01 07:43:48 · 14 answers · asked by Jazzy61 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You feel that you trusted the people you showed the pictures to, but your trust was betrayed. When you're at work, you have to understand that you're not on your own turf. Somebody that could be offended by that may be too timid to let you know that it made them uncomfortable... it's always safe to go to management, for them, because there is no chance of a confrontation.
Also, it depends on your co-workers. Normally, you can eventually get a sense of who you can share that type of thing with.
Until you really know a co-worker, don't share anything with them that you wouldn't share with your grandmother or great aunt.
2007-02-01 08:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by l_quicksilver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could have been someone you didn't show that complained. Someone who overheard or saw without being invited to take a gander. You have to be very careful these days about anything and everything that you do.
Personally, I think it is a matter of minding your own business. If someone does or says something you don't approve of...ignore it. If it is a continual happening, then maybe you should approach that person and let them know you are uncomfortable.
Fortunately, you kept your job. Just chalk it up as a lesson learned. Sorry to hear that you work with total jerks though.
2007-02-01 12:25:00 · answer #2 · answered by Rhoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what state you live in. But basically, for it to be "harrassment" it has to be on more than 1 occassion or incident. The potential harasser needs to be informed that their conduct or actions were unwanted. Many businesses have a policy in place and most employees were informed of this in some way, so if your company does and you were, yes it was harassment. Your co-workers (whether back stabbing or genuine) have the right to protect their work environment by disclosing to their or your supervisor.
The work place is no place for sexually related discussion, remarks, photos, icons, books etc.
2007-02-01 07:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Carol D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its unfortunate...but rules are rules.
I agree that they should have stated that they felt it was distasteful, and left it at that. This way you would know who and who not to show these types of things too in the future.
But folks don't like to independently stand up for their beliefs.
So in the future I would refrain from showing that kinds of stuffs or simply ask before showing it.
Me I prefer to just not show anything, in fact I avoid any type socializing in the office and definately never let folks in on my personal life. As there is always one or two who want to gossip. And make work life a living hell.
2007-02-01 08:03:05 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
QUESTION~You know the difference between flirting and sexual harassment?
ANSWER~ It depends on if the person likes you or not.
Sexual accusations and things of that nature are used all the time to exalt revenge or just be petty now.It abuse of rules that are just too vague.Someone just didn't like you or gets a thrill out of being the''insulted one''.Over sensitive people do things like this for attention.There just goofy.
2007-02-01 08:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by Meemi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Political correctness is really getting carried away. I put the word "penis" on here and it was deleted for "adult content" how can a scientific word be adult content. Sorry to vent. I don't blame you for being upset. It's stupid. I wonder who the prude was that was all insulted by a picture of a cake. What a loser!
2007-02-01 07:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by MotherMayI? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In any SH incident, it is the duty of the individual who is offended to go directly to management or HR, not to the offender.
2007-02-01 07:48:15 · answer #7 · answered by boredperv 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This can be considered sexual harrassment in the workplace
this is not something that you should present in the workplace
this alone could be grounds for termination
2007-02-01 07:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep. It's SH and it's a shame now a days. I'd love to see that cake tho.
2007-02-01 07:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people prefer to go behind one's back in this situation. Just be careful whom you show things to, exercise your best judgement.
2007-02-01 07:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋