In a relationship, why do women feel the need to slowly suffocate the freedom & life out of men?

Question

Selfishness?

This is a scenario/complaint that i hear every now and then, and I jsut wanted to get peoples' opinions.

Answer 1

MOST women do not. This question is biased and based on a mistaken premise.

Some insecure women do this, but so do some insecure men.

Answer 2

I have friends that have done that and I think it is a feeling of insecurity in them selves, A healthy relationship is based on honesty and love. So, if that person loves you and you are secure in that, then there is no need to constantly harp at them because eventually it will drive a them away from you. suffocation is the same as being jealous to me but some women feel that if they do not dominate a man, they will leave. I have never had that problem. Being open and communication should solve it.

Answer 3

"Some women", feel if they let their man have to much freedom there man will slowly drift away from them and out of sight forever. They are scared that putting a little trust in there man will only lead them to getting hurt. Not knowing that if theres NO TRUST there is defiantly NO RELATIONSHIP.

Thats just my opinion on what i see in other women. All women are not the same.
Good luck finding ur best answer.

Answer 4

Perhaps it's the caliber of the women you are speaking of?

Immature clingy females tend to do this; more mature females that are secure with themselves are naturally more secure when in healthy relationships and tend not to be so dependent and therefore don't normally "slowly suffocate the freedom & life out of men."

If it's happening to you; 1. RUN, 2. find someone a bit more mature and secure with themselves.

Answer 5

Control, pure and simple.
They want to think of you as a lump of clay. A lump that needs to be resculpted into something more to their liking. After you have been made over in their image then your domestication begins until you become a pet. The worse they make you feel, the more uplifted you feel when she tells you what a good boy you are. Once you are dependent on her for any glimmer of joy, she has you in her kennel. If you feel like a useless pile of crud you will lack the capability to have the confidence to 'cheat'. Then you are hers and nobody elses.

Answer 6

You know, you are right - in that a lot of women do that. I don't think they are aware that they are doing it however. We women often don't feel very good about ourselves, and in order to feel secure, we often feel we need to have some sort of control over things to make us feel better. It takes a secure woman to let a man be a man, without feeling threatened by that.

In my marriage to my ex-husband, I think he would have said that I was doing that very thing to him, that you are speaking of. I would say myself, that yes, I did do that to him, but not intentionally. In my view, I was only reacting to the emotional abuse he was inflicting upon me (he treated me horribly).

I am now engaged again and this time it is different. One thing that my fiance tells me frequently, is that he loves and appreciates me all the more because I allow him to be himself. I give him the freedom to spend time with his friends without feeling threatened. I give him space when he needs it, and I don't try to tell him what to do or how to do it. Why do I do this? Because he treats me like I am the most important woman in the world, and he makes me feel cherished. It is a two-way street. He gives me his undying respect, and it makes me want to do the same for him.

We are not all like the women you speak of. Nor are all men like my ex-husband. You just have to find the right person.

Answer 7

Maybe because men can't always be trusted so we have to lay down the law.

We don't take away a guys freedom or life, we simply become his life and that's the way it'll always be unless all men want to go gay...but then they'll just have a girlie man telling them what to do.

Answer 8

How old are you?
I have to answer this question as diplomatically as I can and yet make you understand that the female of the species are not really that preying mantis type of predator, lol.

When a guy appears interested in us, we like to feel that he is interested in ONLY us, and we are not one many that he likes .
Fact number one= We lasso you from the start.

We like to control your roving eyes checking out the competition, and that is primal, we cannot do anything about that.
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Much of a man's freedom consists of making out with other girls, not us, and going out with the guys.

Your chances of the first is nil, and as for the second, we let the noose loose enough every now and then.

Selfishness?- no. maybe it is a preprogrammed mating ritual set on a monogamous environment, designed to weed out the riffraff and the male members of the species who are diseased from copulating with many other females..

Answer 9

Haven't you figured out by now that relationships might involve two people, but women usually see them as involving her and what that man she's with can do for her? Look at holidays and special occasions for clues. They revolve around what she is going to get and how much effort the man is going to put into it.

Answer 10

cuz majority of men lie and cheat.
the woman doesnt wanna be the dumb dumb that gets walked on.
im a woman and ive slowly distanced myself frm my friends who do that to their men.
its unhealthy and a clear path to misery.
its more of insecurity and power tripping rather than selfishness.
however, it is initially the mens fault for being dogs since the history of time.
not all, but seems like a lot.
not all guys deserve the suffocation.

Answer 11

man value freedom. Woman value closeness. They have to learn to work together. I have done that too men before I realized that men need to know they can get out