nearly a week ago, my boyfriend broke up with me. he's never really trusted me and we have always had arguements about rumours about me and other guys...ive never EVER cheated on him. people have never spoken well bout me cos of things i did in my past (some true some lies) a month ago he confessed that he had cheated like a year ago cos he thought that i did the same. but i ended up forgiving him. a week ago we started talknig bout the guys i had been with, and things i had done, which were quite embarrassiong so i just denied everything i got really nervous, and he "caught me". now he hates me and thinks im a lying *****. i regret it so much, but i had my reasons. now he doesnt believe anything ive ever told him. and ive only lied on my past! i sent him an email 4 days ago explaining everything, saying sorry and that i really loved him. i really really love this guy, and wud do anything to b with him. please help!
2007-02-01 07:41:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just wana add that after he told me bout the other girl he went with, he realised i hadnt cheated on him, and the last few weeks we were great together. do u think ill ever get to talk to him? i cant get to think that i just have to forget him just like that! :(
2007-02-01 07:54:49 · update #1
i know i should move on, but he's just so so special to me...i love him so much...i really wana try fixing things up. duno, im just a person that thinks people commit errrors and that they can be fixed. i dont want to let go of someone so special so easily...
2007-02-01 08:01:29 · update #2
Cut your losses and move on, it will never change.
He will never trust you
2007-02-01 07:47:55 · answer #1 · answered by smars442002 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you trying so hard to get back a guy who doesn't trust you and who has made the decision to move ahead with his life? Could be love you feel but it could also be disappointment combined with a deep sense of loss. You can get over this. Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you have changed and that you deserve a guy who will love you enough to a)trust you, and that b) you will love him enough to NEVER backslide or betray his trust. If you are over 21, chances are great that you and your future love will BOTH have "pasts". You do not EVER give all the details. You simply tell each other that you thought you were in love before and you made mistakes but now you are ready to make a commitment "as is". He has his secrets and you have yours. The past should be PAST. And, by the way, you would be better off to look for love in a new social circle where your old so-called pals are not around to spread gossip. Good luck!
2007-02-01 07:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste anymore of your life on him, once someone has fallen out of love with you, that is it and the more you try to contact him via phone, text, e-mail or trying to catch him at work or at your old 'haunts' the more he will realise he did the right thing by breaking up with you and the more obsessed you will be trying to convince him that you are meant to be together and you will end up a stalker and perhaps be issued with a restraining order, forcing you to keep away from him - permanently!
I know this is not what you want to hear but it is the truth. It does hurt when someone you still love leaves you and consequently no longer loves you, for whatever reason, it will take a while to come to terms with it but eventually you will, and just be grateful that you did have this time with someone, as it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
2007-02-01 08:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by babycakes mummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some time. stop living in the past. No trust=no love. for the sake of your sanity and in oder to keep your self-esteem and dignity intact (although it wont be easy during the first few days and months) stop pursuing the guy!!!! you deserve much better. Learn the lesson well and try to move on.i know it hurts...we have all been there at some point in our lives and although being on the receiving end hurts like hell, we all move on. Time will do the job and heal those wounds. work on your feelings, emtions and take care of your soul and of your body. nothing in life has meanings, other than the meanings we attach to it. there are no good and bad experiences as well, just experiences to teach us some much valued lesson which in turn help us to grow and become a better person.
i've learned it the hard way myself.
take care
2007-02-01 23:39:34 · answer #4 · answered by samsara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are liars. You almost deserve each other but god forbid you make children.
My ex lied to me about crap like this -- when I found out I left, biggest mistake I ever made in my was going back. Lieing abut your past says a lot about your character and integrity and how much you trust(or attempt to use) the other party.
Obviously the two of you don't have much of that going.
You situation is done before you even got started.
Sorry
2007-02-01 07:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you say "he's never really trusted you"! That can't be a nice feeling. Be true to yourself! Ask yourself how can this guy that doesn't trust me, has openly admitted to cheating possibly be any good for your self esteem? Never bring the passed up if it makes you uncomfortable and if this guy had any respect for you what soever, he would do the same. It may seem hard to do but the best thing for you is to dump this insensitive as-hole and learn to love yourself before opening your emotions up to any guy. Good Luck.
2007-02-01 08:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so confused as to why someone would want to stay in a relationship that has trust issues as you describe. Is this the only man in the world? NO!! Move on, your heart will heal & you will look back & think why did I ever stay in a crazy relationship like that - I deserve so much better!
2007-02-01 07:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by ms_debbieg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your past is not his business, so don't let him make it! Furthermore, if he is going to listen to rumors rather than trust you, there is nothing really to get back. You can do much better-odds are high HE is the one messing around more than you know. Make your self pull back, keep busy with other things & if he does come back, talk frankly to him. You don't have to spend the rest of your life apologising for your past & make it clear!
2007-02-01 07:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by life coach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a jerk. He obviously told you he cheated on you to break up with you ( an exuse to break up) and then he picked a fight over something minimal with you? He doestn want you sister to move on. Do well let him see you happy and successful and in time he will sad he let you go. SO work on yourself not getting him back. Good luck.
2007-02-01 07:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly, he doesn't trust you anymore, and if he doens't trust you, even if you never cheated on him, he won't ever believe you. Its best for you to give up on him and move on. If you and he were meant to be, he will be back on his own, but not because of what you do to get him back. There is nothing you can do to gain his trust back.
2007-02-01 07:49:33 · answer #10 · answered by George P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he cheated on you whatever the reasons so just move on & try make some better descisions you sound like a sensible person
2007-02-01 08:37:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋