Spouse is overseas on a military assignment. We haven't spoken since my birthday in Jan. On my birthday we had inclement weather where I live and I had to go to work. We talked through IM and he wanted me to text when I got to work so he could try to call me. Well when I got to work, there was more work to do than normal because of the delay. I had to actually work more than usual. He calls and starts venting out his frustrations about his job, etc and I let him. Did I say it was my birthday? Well, after some interruptions in our conversations and realizing that I need to get this work done, I stated to him that I needed to get my work done and I needed to get off the phone. Also told him I would be IM later that night to talk to him. I was off the the next day for my birthday. He said ok and we got off the phone. He got pissed! Today after I told him our son was sick he also stated that he hoped whoever I was trying to impress @ work wasn't going to miss me. What gives?
2007-02-01 07:35:58 · 2 answers · asked by Wondering... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sounds lonely and stressed out to me. My husband served 11 months in Iraq and we've had similar conversations. It's hard for them to remember that our lives go on as usual when they are gone and we can't be just sitting around waiting for the phone to ring. Chances are he's upset about something much bigger and just using this to vent the frustration somewhere. And our spouses who are away with the military have no idea how stressful our lives are - afterall, no one's shooting at us.
He also may get frustrated when he hears about a problem at home (like your son being sick) and he can't do anything about it. So he gets frustrated and starts ranting and raving about something stupid that he doesn't even mean, because there's nothing he can do to help you and be the "man of the house" right now. That was tough for my husband.
Bear with him. Be there for him, as much as you can and as much as he'll let you.
No one has any idea the stress that military wives are under - including our husbands. Stay strong - support your husband - and take care of your family at home. It's all you can do.
God bless you.
2007-02-05 15:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by erismom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Military life is very stressful=a really high divorce rate second only to policemen I think. Keep calm your both STRESSED, I'm sure part of his attitude if not all, is simply that he misses you.
2007-02-02 18:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Thankyou4givengmeaheadache 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋