Kids are grown.Is it time to move on!!!!
2007-02-01 07:33:20 · 29 answers · asked by PURE PLEASURE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you don't love one another, then it is time to move on even if the kids are NOT moved out. But not before consulting a marriage counselor to see if you can get that spark back! You may still be in love. Love takes nurturing and work, and if you have not put in the effort, love is going to suffer. There are steps you can take to fix it, though, and a professional can help you do that. If you are not willing to do that, then you are obviously not willing to make it work at all. It is best to divorce now and get it over with rather than be miserable the rest of your life. I would say this even if the kids were still there. It is foolish to stay together "for the kids." All you are doing is teaching them how NOT to have a relationship. That is going to affect their ability to maintain a good relationship as adults. Not a good idea.
Good luck! It's a tough spot to be in, kids or no kids.
2007-02-01 07:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She likes you but she doesn't love you and the kids are the only reason she is there. She wants out and she will divorce you before the kids are year older, you got that to look forward to. No one wants to be in a loveless marriage you might as well let her go now. She is very unhappy and the longer you stay tied the more you grow to hate the person that has you tied down, she wants out and there isn't a thing you can do. Be nice that doesn't work, gifts, kiss a** no, anything you try to do adds to the fire. get a divorce and find someone else that really loves you.
2007-02-01 07:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I there boet. I am glad I'm not alone I also have this problem currently and just posed the same question. I think that moving on will hurt alot becos you guys were together for a while. I am taken steps to stay in the same house but sleep seperatly for awhile sometimes we need to give each other space to feel that love we first had if you try this and after two weeks she feels the same then I think its time to move on. Believe me I am going thru the same.
2007-02-04 17:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that would hurt but it is very common. You can try to bring the excitement back into the marriage if she is willing to try. If she isnt and you want love in your life you are going to have to get a divorce and start over. This happens to alot of people when kids leave the house because the couple has lost themselves through the years of raising kids. Good luck- try a vacation and romance her a litlle and see if that works before you throw in the towel.
2007-02-01 07:49:41 · answer #4 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go bang a whole bunch of hot young women and see how she feels about it then.
Supic C**t. Why is she going to wait so late in life to tell you some crap like this. She was probably waiting for you to be all used up so that the young chicks woudn't want you.
But you know what, chicks these days are easy, all you gotta do is hang out with them and they'll give it to you eventually. So forget this lady and live the rest of your life a happy man by getting all the variety of puntang that you deserve!
2007-02-01 19:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she no longer loves u maybe separate for awhile, and wait and see what happens. marriage is not a feeling but a choice to stay even though at times u may feel u lost that loving feeling, if the kids are grown and if she doesn't love u, may be time to make some changes.
2007-02-01 11:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes dear, she means she will always love you for being the good father of her children. Although loving someone and being in love are 2 totally diff. things. Sorry for my soon to be bluntness, but she does not love you like a lover, husband, or whatever you situation is. Find something to mend your tortured soul.
2007-02-01 07:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by gutten abend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probally still cares about you. I would say yes its time to move on if that is what she is looking for. Being in love is the most important thing in a relationship.
2007-02-01 07:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by beaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
over time love changes,sometimes you raise kids have bills jobs you seem to drift apart.you forget that feeling that brought you together.try to talk and see if this is the case.go back and do the things you loved to do before the kids.ask her what she thinks love is or her meaning may hold the answer to your questions
2007-02-01 07:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by zachsgrammy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can totally understand that statement. I'm not in love with my husband anymore and told him so. I also told him i will always love him because of the two wonderful gifts he gave me (our daughters).
it doesn't matter that the kids are grown, without YOU she wouldn't have them.
accept the fact that she's fallen out of love with you and move on (as you say)
2007-02-01 07:38:01 · answer #10 · answered by joe's wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋