ok so heres the deal i have a huge crush on one of my really good friends. he found out from someone that i liked him and now evrything is so weired. i like him a lot but i dont think he likes me that much. everyone of my friends tell me we would make a really good couple but i dont think it will ever work out which really depresses me sometimes.... but then if we ever do get togeather what then? what if we brake up what would happen to our friendship? oh yeah and somehow almost my entire swim team found out! that makes things so ockward because he is also on the swim team and ugh!! i am in quit a pickle.... help please?
2007-02-01 07:30:39 · 23 answers · asked by shortie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have been there.....You need to ask yourself again and again whether you REALLY like him. If you keep getting the same answer, ie. Yes, then go right ahead and tell him. Dont be afraid, you never know, maybe he feels the same way and just hasnt told you.
Beleive you me, its worth the try than spending the rest of your life wondering what could have been. If you really like him, and can see yourself with him for a long time, as in- for real r/ship, no games etc...then go on with it! If he is yours, he will be yours.
If it was meant to be, there is nothing in this world that can stop it! If he says no, dont fret- maybe there is someone made for you out there...just go ahead and try! Good luck!
2007-02-01 07:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by Venus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretend that it isn't true. I don't mean lie, but act like he doesn't know. If he likes you he will let you know. If he doesn't then he will eventually forget about it as long as you don't put it on his mind all the time. I have dated many friends and only a few relationships have been ruined. Those are only the relationships where he cheated. Honestly, I wouldn't really want them as a friend anyways. I am currently engaged to my best friend. I love it because we can tell each other anything. There wasn't much that he didn't know about me before we got together so we didn't have that awkwardness of a new relationship. Don't be afraid if something does end up happening between you two. Just make a bigger effort to make sure that things don't turn out bad. Don't worry about your swim team. Things like that wont matter in the future, I promise.
2007-02-01 07:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy to Boys 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I basically had the same exact thing happen to me once except he didn't find out, or at least not yet. You need to just tell him yourself if he hates you for it you have lost a friendship, but because he knows you have probably lost it already. Because you were good friends he probably won't be totallly appalled by it. Tell him and if he likes you back then you will be happy and so will he and you still might be able to be friends. Just remember, after you cross that line it is hard to go back!
2007-02-01 07:34:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and if it happens to be that you both get together then it will happen...As far as the friendship goes sometimes things go bad but on the other hand the friendship stays strong...As far as everyone else goes they don't matter...I would talk to him tell him how you feel so as no one can add to or take away of what you feel... See where it takes you..Good Luck and let us know what happens My thoughts are are with you on this...
2007-02-01 07:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by charmed4412 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my suggestion... go for it. see if he likes you like you like him. just ask some random questions that could get an answer out of him. if things were to not work out then just let him know that you want to remain friends. it would be a little akward at first but ive done it a few times and im actually closer with them now. just remind him that you started out as friends and you dont want that to end because of some relationship that went beyond being friends. my tip... dont tell your friends until you and a guy are exclusively involved next time.
2007-02-01 07:38:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well i have 2 situations that relate to your problem,First i started dating one of ym really good friends too and we ended up going out for about a year but then we broke up. I was really sad but when we did break up i told him straight and forward that I still wanted to be firneds and we are , it was a little awkward at first but now were back to normal and still great firends, so just go for it, if hes a good friend then it wont be awwad if you break up.and my 2 situation happened just recently, i started to liike another one of my really close friends ALOT and iv known him since grade primary.. anyway i was always to scared to make the first move so i didnt and he ended up moving away (not far though)and then i found out that he liked me too so if i had just told him how i felt we could have ended up still talking today but now we dont even talk anymore so you should tell him how you feel before its to late. well i hope i helped Good Luck!
2007-02-01 07:48:33 · answer #6 · answered by Janelle S. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a couple who were great friends for a long time and then started dating. She says that a first it felt really wierd but now its great. Who better to date than your best friend! Just tell him and see how it goes. I for one think it can really work out.
2007-02-01 07:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to decide whether your friend relationship is more important to you that a possible boyfriend... I was in the same situation.. I told my friend that I liked him, but he didnt feel the same way.. it was very wierd for the first few days but after that we became even better friends. Today he is still one of my best friends. If you really feel strongly about him you have to tell him
2007-02-01 07:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by sweetiecem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is do no longer tell her something because it is none of her business enterprise. i be attentive to its tempting to grant her only somewhat your innovations yet once you start up responding then she would be able to thrive off that and probable use it against you in some twisted way. Block her on face e book and in the adventure that your guy is on face e book request he blocks her to inspite of the incontrovertible fact that if she skill no longer something he will ensure that touch does no longer ensue. Take Care
2016-09-28 07:07:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...u should be happy that he's a good friend...i think one of my 'friends' found out taht i fancy him and he played on me and literally broke me up...but then my advice would be be careful...you don't want to be taken advantage like my friend has done to me...
at the same time...i guess you can deny it or you can ask him on an innocent night out...try to be cool about it, it will soon cool down a bit and be back to normal. good luck! =)
2007-02-01 07:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by ChristopheraX 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋