I feel like crying!!!?

Question

Recently i have been thinkin of my 21st and so have a few other locals as i went to book the pub for it last week and was told there was no other bookin, so that was grand then i heard that two other girls were havin a double together, on the night i had booked so i left them a bebo message sayin i had it booked and was more than happy to share it with them, only i got a message back this morning saying they had it booked since october and that i was confused and that they would prefer to be between them selves, so went to the pub and they confirmed they double booked me, i could cry but only because i feel it was a bit harsh that the girls wanted to have it on their own, but in my head i dont blame them, but i still feel like crying!!!! so now im having it a week after my birthday and i booked it!!! lol mistakes shouldnt have been made!! any way how was ur day?? lol

Rani no offence takin but ill put it this way for ya, my other died when i was 8 at 14 i found out that my father is an alky, so to the say the least i didnt think i would reach 21, with strugglin through depression, yes its good to think there is always someone worse than u, but at the same time i have proven my self wrong and look back and thank god i kept it in there, so i dont mean to com across greedy or selfish, but its grattification!!!

Answer 1

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Answer 2

Calm down, darling ..... its not the end of the world.

Maybe ask some of your other close dear friends to help you book something last minute so you all can celebrate your 21st together.

Good friends won't mind helping out.... that's what true friends are for.

I never had a 21st birthday party but then again come to think if it... I spend my 21st sulking in my room for being told off by my parents for getting my tongue pierced!!! ha ha they thought it was worse than getting a tattoo?? Go figure!

That was a long time ago.... didn't have a party for my 30th but did go out for a lovely meal with a couple of close friends. I am not big on clubbing or the party scene so a quiet meal was just perfect.

All the best for your 21st. Happy Birthday.

Answer 3

.Can't you have your "21st" some place else like your home? That way, you can celebrate to the max and not have to worry about how you are getting home. Invite your friends or your "mates" over and have a ball. You are still a baby and have many years of celebrating ahead of you so don't let not getting the pub bum you out. I know 21 is special, but trust me, so is every other birthday you will ever have!!! We are all special and we should all celebrate our existence every chance we get! Happy Birthday. P.S. I have to go to a funeral, but I'm having a good day anyway. PPS- I partied with mobsters on my 21st..for real, at a nightclub in Las Vegas

Answer 4

Hi Miss Elect!!!


Don't be sad, at least you know that your gratification, no one will take away from you!!!

Plus, you can not go back to be twenty, once you reach twenty one!!! So you have plenty of time to celebrate.

Weather it is the same day or NOT it shouldn't matter, what you should celebrate, should be from the inside out. So if you can through a party or NOT, that should be relative, to the fact that you should be absolutely proud of what you have accomplish until now!!!

Party or NOT, you should be happy, to had come a long way!!! Battling depression and fa. issues do to alcohol, or drugs, and winning is a party in itself!!!

The party is just a feast, the real celebration should take place in your soul!!! Keep on, keep striving and you should achieve all your goals in life!!!

GOD BLESS YOU, GOOD LUCK & HAPPY LIFE

A.Z.

Answer 5

Wow man, I'm gutted for ya I really am. I had a shite 21st last year (I was on Chemotherapy) and I have suffered depression since I was 14 so I know how that feels but I was lucky to have my family with me for support. What ya need to is go out with your mates on your birthday and and have a whale of a time!
Anyway I hope ya do have a good 'un. As for me my 21st party will be in August this year after I finished all my treatment, a full 16mths after my birthday lol!

Have a good 'un mate, oh and find out about the Amsterdam booze cruise, I was s'posed be goin on that! :p

Answer 6

Wow--- sounds tragic!!! I truly feel great compassion for you. How could this have happened??? Life is not fair!!!

Hey--- how about on the night of your actual birthday you celebrate by helping out at your local hospital--the children's ward can always use someone to read a few stories etc-- Maybe take in some cupcakes for the kids who can eat. Or take some cookies, and distribute at the local soup kitchen?

No offense intended--- I'm sure you are a very nice person, but we are all happier when we are absorbed in giving to others, than when we are absorbed in thoughts of why we don't get what we want for ourselves.

PS Its not so much that others have it worse, so you feel better--- I've also had some extremely difficult times, and suffered from depression. The thing is, when you GIVE love and try to make other people happy, a weird thing happens--- YOU become happy, YOU experience love and joy. You become so filled up, you don't have much time or space for lamenting for the lacks in our lives.
So its kind of selfish, I guess. I REALLY want to be happy-- so I try to love God and His children. What I feel I lack, I try to give to others--- and surprise!--- I get it all back, doubled.
Its all here--- joy, tragedy, love, hate, lamentation, gratitude--- You choose what you want to feel.
When disappointment comes out way, try to adapt and make things good in a different way.
Congratulations on turning 21-- Your life is just beginning! Love and laugh as much as you can--- and learn to be unattached to 'things' and events turning out as you planned it--- but accept it all as an exciting adventure. sometimes what happens ends up being much better than you were able to plan it!

Answer 7

Congrats on your 21st!!! I understand you are disappointed, but at least you'll have a party and you have friends that will come. I wish you all the best for the next 21 years. By the way, great how you overcame all these obstacles in your life and came out on the other end a better person. Good on you!! Be proud of yourself and enjoy your life!

Answer 8

Don't worry you are allowed to cry. Look at it this way. If you have a very close friend or boyfriend then go out with this person on your actual birthday and then have a big party on the week after. Happy 21st anyway

Answer 9

I am so sorry that you encountered this!
I know it's hard at this time, but try be positive, you'll get to be with the ones you love and share twice a very special day.
Happy 21st, hope your 21st will be as special as mine was, a year to remember
Peace

Answer 10

I think we're in sort of the right section first I hope friends can make it the second week 'Ok' I found some girl and now I am so undesided what I am to do or why its had to call her back ?