He seems sorry, but has caused a lot of damage. His wife and friends have all left him. As a parent should I try to help or read him the riot act? He has had ADHD since childhood but is now a young man.
2007-02-01 07:15:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
ADHD is a pseudo-science load of crock. If they are grown up, then let them be grownup. Let him know you love him, but he did the crime, do the time.
2007-02-01 07:18:43 · answer #1 · answered by pedohunter1488 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is a difference between support and trying to make everything okay. I'm all for a parent supporting their child emotionally, but he needs to know how disappointed you are in his behavior - just like when he was a toddler. DO NOT give money or financial support - He needs to feel the punishment that he will receive for his crime. Do not stand in the way of the justice system trying to support him. Let the courts do what they will - He will just have to accept it.
I get very very upset when I see parents, especially on the news, trying to tell people how their son or daughter is innocent when it's obvious that their not. These parent s do so much damage to the victim and their own child when they try to mitigate their child's involvement in a crime - Or say they "couldn't" have done it because THEY "know" their child. Give me a break!!!
2007-02-01 16:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support him emotionally but not financially.
I.E., no expensive care packages or money on his books.
He has to understand that what he did was wrong and that you along twithe the rest of society won't condone it.
You should tell him now how you will not be in contact while he's locked up.
This may seem cruel, but the sad fact is that people get used to being in prison if everything is taken care of and they get stuff for free from the outside. The next thing that happens is that they don't mind going to jail and become revolving door prisoners.
Tough love is your only option.
Make sure while he's in jail he stays miserable so that he won't ever want to go back.
2007-02-01 15:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by Soundjata 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His ADHD is no excuse for breaking the law. As a parent, if MY child commited a crime then they are certainly going to pay for it and it doesn't matter if it's a minor child or an adult.
2007-02-01 15:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support him yes. But harbor a fugitive or aid and abet a crime? No, that's over the line. It is sad to let them go and run afoul of the obstacles in life, but it is appropriate.
2007-02-01 15:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by All hat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there done that. They always seem sorry when they get caught. I pressed charges against my daughter and sent to juvenial hall for 6 months. Best thing I ever did. After that she was in and out of Juvenial hall for the next three years. Finally when she went to jail when she was 18 she got scarred straight. We were in and out of couceling for years and nothing seemed to help. She finally just grew out of it I think.
2007-02-01 15:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by mrrparker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely would. I may be angered or disgusted by his crime, but to me it wouldn't change the fact that he is my son and I will love him no matter how heinous or nefarious his crime is.
Of course my son is only six, and my daughter is 7 months, but I will always love them and be there for them no matter what.
2007-02-01 15:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by evil_paul 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he will always be your son,he made a mistake,he is your son,unique on this planet and in this life,love him like he were dying,one day one of you will and then its too late for i should have and i could have.then you will have no regrets or excuses
2007-02-01 15:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by drivingfast2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would emotionally support all my children regardless of any thing they have done.
2007-02-01 15:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by Cammie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋