why do some guys not want affection if they already say they know how u feel?

Question

I love my hubsand with everything in me and we were so affectionate,before we had alittle mis understanding but we have work through it but he just not the same as before when he would always say I love you and he'd hold my hand, we kissed alot too, now I feel like he is only doing it becuz it's what I want and need to feel the love. I just beleive that if you truely care for someone that would lay her life down to save yours( just try'n 2 have u guys understand how much I love him) How can u not love her enough 2 show you care without her showing first. can someone explain men 2 me?

Answer 1

I think it would be important to know what the 'little misunderstanding' was but you should know the that the male ego is easily damaged and difficult to repair. If you really want to keep the marriage going then be ready to be patient. You will eventually earn back most of what you are now missing.

Answer 2

Without knowing what the misunderstanding was, it is hard to say why he has lost the feeling. What I can say is that without trust a relationship will fail.

If you accused him of having an affair that he did not have, there is a high probability that he does not feel as close to you as before. Whatever the misunderstanding, it has distanced him from you. He may say that he knows how you feel, because he does know how you feel. He just may not feel the same way.

It sounds like you need some time to pass and perhaps a romantic getaway to rekindle your marriage.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 3

Sorry I have yet to meet a guy who enjoys public displays of affection (unless they're getting their jollies off).
Most believe their presence should be enough and their partners should know that they love them. For the most part they put on the show to please their partner (they honestly think it's not all that important).
However your spat may have brought him into this new behavior. I would suggest you talk to him and see if there is anything new that was never discussed before. It seems that your spat has done more damage than good and he is unsure of how to feel or act towards you.

Answer 4

There are very few men who are really good at expressing their feelings, especially in words. If you have one of those few, and he has quit expressing feelings, then maybe the misunderstanding wasn't so little, and his feelings have really changed. On the other hand, maybe it's just the natural progress of the relationship (you don't say have long you have been married), and he is, like most men, just getting lazy.