ok my ex and I have a long history of three years, I was a freshmen when I meet him and we were together ever since, I lost my verginity to him and pretty much evrything else, we broke up alot off and on during the three years, we recently broke up almost three months ago, during this time, we wanted to fighure things out with each other and maybe get back together, but he has been going back in forth with saying he is moving on and such, the last couple weeks have been really good with us, we were getting alone, still having sex beacuse he told me he still had feelings for me and so I thought everything was great, so last night he tells me that i need to start moving on and that he is not in love with me anymore, it broke my heart, he still wants to be friends thought, and he is still waring the promise ring I got him( he wont take it off) my question is this time how do i move on and let go of this lost, I am affrad he is going to move on to fast and meet someone else? please help.
2007-02-01 06:00:57 · 13 answers · asked by Brooke 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is just using you as a casual sex partner. That's not love. It's just sex. He will move on and he will find someone else. You are not in a real relationship anymore. Get that through your head first. Then, start dating other people. You are just in a completely meaningless relationship that is going to go nowhere. You need to step outside your comfort zone and stop being such a lazy a*ss. You need to tell yourself that you can do better and that you don't need him. He is just using you for sex. He does not love you. Move on. The sooner the better. I bet you that if you found another man, you would not be pathetically hanging on to your ex's every word like you are now.
2007-02-01 06:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off DO NOT TALK TO HIM!!! leave him be. He Will come back many times, for whatever reason, but you need not to allocate time for him in your agenda. That's is if you love him and hope to get him back and also take into consideration it will do a better healing on your soul. It will be vary tuff to let go. Truly!! I am still in love with my ex fiance. I've been broken up for about a year now and stop seeing him for the past month. From your scripted inquiry I can see you have not had any faults in the relationship. So therefore do not question anything at this moment until you are sure he is finally done with you. Then go ahead and have a talk with him. Do not let him know you are utterly destroyed. Act as though you have better things to do. But do not act as though your the neighborhood hotty either. That will also hinder him from chasing you. What I mean don't go chasing after a rebound. Hope I was of good assistance. Good luck with you relationship
2007-02-01 14:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by gutten abend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone want to be with you no matter how bad you want to. Moving on is probably the best idea. He has came back to you because you are "comfortable" to him, he is safe with you because he knows you love him for him. He doesn't have to pretend to be someone he is not when he's with youl Now, as for you, don't be thinking it's the end of the world. He may move on with someone else, that's gonna happen. you need to move on, if he knows you are just sitting around waiting for him to come back he will continue to use you. Find someone else, or just hang with your friends. I know it's rough, been there a dozen times, it will get better...be strong.
2007-02-01 14:08:57 · answer #3 · answered by justright73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How to forget someone you love? isn't that a question too many people ask...
Well, best way to get over him so by waiting, by letting time do its work. You have to just let the feeling pass, and yea, it will pass after a while. For now you can go on dates just for fun, just so you can occupy your mind and get him out of it. You never know, maybe you`ll meet someone who's better for you and that will make it easier moving on.
2007-02-01 14:07:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply need to help yourself, more than anything.
You need to stay in school and focus on your education. You have processed this entire relationship into your life's priorities and your school work is failing because of it. There will be many boys, but you have but one chance to go to school and learn how to write, intelligently. Your future employment will begin with a resume and will continue with the need to articulate things clearly.
The question you are asking has little or no importance, in comparison to the evident problem you have with a failed education.
2007-02-01 14:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by y_b_normal2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first girlfriend strung me along after we broke up. She was seeing this guy and still playing games with me. She went away on vacation and the break was just what I needed. When she came back I was totally over her and able to get on with my life. Try breaking it off completely. No messing around, no promise rings, no "just want to be friends". That all adds up to misery. Focus on you now, not him.
2007-02-01 14:07:28 · answer #6 · answered by bluesbreaker65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you he had move on long time ago...About tha ring that doesn't mean anything to him people say and do things just for the heck of saying and doing is fun and keep "you" mentaly busy about him...Just mov on even if he doesn't YOU move on...What is what you learning from this relationship that is instable? That you alwyas hold on false promses...
2007-02-01 14:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is playing games with you and that the only way you can get away from it is to literally GET AWAY. Don't talk, don't write, don't hang out in the same group. Just detach yourself from him as much as possible. Maybe that will give him the space he needs to figure out what your relationship means to him.
2007-02-01 17:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to be tied down to one person. ;o( Whether you realize it or not i"m sure he hasn't just been sitting around twiddling his thumbs. As much as it might hurt you right now you really need to let him go. Get on with your life and find a guy that will actually treat you as you deserve. good luck ;o)
2007-02-01 14:27:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a guy, you need to get over it. You need to understand that guys like us don't care about crap like promise rings. The fact that you were on and off throughout your three years proves that you guys weren't as perfect as you thought. You need to get over this fantasy relationship that you want and face reality.
2007-02-01 14:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by Relax Guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋