when i have an argument with my husband he doesnt talk to me for days but me even the same day i get over it and forget what happened its cuz i love him. like with my cousins he argued with me about somethng so stupid and stopped talking i said hi the next day and he wasnt the same he acted as if he didnt want anything to do with me, i know alot of people who do this they just stop speaking as if throwing a person away is so easy for them doesnt matter at all if the persons gone. i get mad too but i understand that those people r important in our lives im not going to stop speaking to my husband for days based on how he one day woke up early and slammed the bathroom door.why do they stop speaking for
2007-02-01 06:00:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
is there something wrong with me? i forgive people easily i dont like fights and when there is one i feel very very sad that i cant talk to this person cuz of this argument meanwhile that person is like "hey whatever im happy and relaxed although i just had an argument"
2007-02-01 06:09:58 · update #1
They stop speaking to you because they have a temper and they're scared they might say something that they can't take back.
2007-02-01 06:04:12 · answer #1 · answered by a1000_desert_roses_bloom 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I too am the type of person that if we argue, stay away from me for a while, until I am ready to speak. I have to bite my tongue a lot in arguments because I can be very nasty with words and they can be very hurtful. Like all things, feelings also need time after confrontations. There is nothing wrong with you, but this is just how you handle these things. Everyone doesn't handle everything the same. Don't dwell to long on trivial things, life is to short for that.
2007-02-08 20:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sympathise, I am very similar. I never stay mad at anyone for Long because I don't see the point. However not everyone is the same so others will try and make you understand that they are hurting by avoiding you. If you act as if nothing has gone wrong this upsets them further because they don't think you have realised they are still upset. The only thing I can suggest is apologising once, and then tell them that whenever they are ready to let it go you are going to be there. That gives them time to get over their feelings whilst understanding that you know they are upset.
It's not perfect, but its the only thing I have found that works.
2007-02-01 07:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by without.question 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He' sulking. You are doing the right thing. He's just miffed coz he didn't have good reason to argue or you won the argument. Let him get on with it as pandering to him will give him the pay off he wants. I know it's hard living in an atmosphere, but manage the best you can. Dont be nasty with it, carry on as you would normally and if he doesn't respond just do whatever suits you. Also if you haven't read it already get Women from Venus Men from Mars.
2007-02-04 10:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Dimples 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It allways takes more then 1 4 an argument. And it can spread away from the original flash point. I think if you can c the flash point and ignor it (count 2 ten) then talk about it later ounce the tention has passed. after all it was only a door closing
2007-02-01 06:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are babies that's why they dont talk after an argument. They're pouting. Don't play into it. They want you to beg and feel sad cuz theyre not talking. Just let it go and those people will come around quicker when they see you're not reacting.
2007-02-08 16:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by obladiblada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is something wrong; if being decent and good is wrong!
You stay just as you are and you will always find a forgiving heart brings its own rewards.
Friends will flock to you, some decent and some not so decent, but friends you will always have.
They will soon lose friends, it is plain and simple sulking they are suffering from. If left alone they will find a need to get over it and want your friendship again "welcome them only if you feel a need to"
Daddy Dave
2007-02-09 01:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by Daddy Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife is the same. im sure some people think you should be nice to them when arguing. we all say things we don't mean but some people just don't grasp that and forget they said dtupid stuff too. sulkiing solves nothing, when we wake up in the morning its a new day. if only everyone could see this.
2007-02-01 06:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems to me like there is some spoilt little kiddie thing hanging about if i were you i would say an encouraging sentence after a row and if he continue,s to blank you do the same but leave may,be the occasional letter to say you are willing to communicate verbally if you want to but better still look into why you are arguing so much good luck
2007-02-01 06:12:27 · answer #9 · answered by Ken M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a bad person. There are only damaged people. A very good friend told me that. I never forgot it. It's good to forgive people. there is nothing wrong with you. That is what I remember every time i want to be angry with somebody. There is no such thing as a bad person, there are only damaged people.
2007-02-01 07:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by country gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋