Were your co-workers nosey about your pregnancy?

Question

I am 11 weeks pregnant with my first baby, and there are two ladies at work that are VERY nosey and are trying to find out if I am pregnant.

They told other people they think I am pregnant because I have been sick and barely eating for weeks, plus I had to take a half day to go to the OB and they assumed it was a doctors appointment.

Now I just caught one looking at my calender on my wall to see if I had anything marked down! I have another appointment next week so they will know when I take a half day.

I know I am being petty, but its my business and I don't have to tell until I am ready.

Were your co-workers nosey about your pregnancy? Should I keep ignorning my nosey co-workers?

Answer 1

They are excited about it, trying to be harmless, if it really bothers you I would say something to make them leave you alone. It's good news dont let them make it stressful

Answer 2

I'm the youngest employee in my office of 7 people, and I found out I was pregnant the week I got hired! I'm a private person and since I'm new here, I wanted to be thought of as a professional. When I reached 4 months, I couldn't help but nibble on Saltines and go to the bathroom all the time, so of course the rumors started. Another employee finally confronted me with the rumors and I confirmed it all. Now the office is all very excited and often asks how I'm doing or how the baby is. They also started giving me less work to do, which can be a good thing during my bouts of nausea. However, I feel less like a "career woman" now, but their kindness and joy over the pregnancy kind of balances things out. I say the best thing to do is probably just confirm it if you're prepared to do so, and then the gossip and nosiness will stop.

Answer 3

Hi, I had to answer you question because I have the same thing happened to me or I should say happening to me now- I am 17 weeks pregnant and besides my bosses and very few other people no body else at work knows for sure, but they sure talk about it. I've heard a 1,000 rumors from different people; my husband and I work together and we got married recently~ so they figured I had to be pregnant otherwise we wouldn't have gotten married so fast {which we did ;-) } w/o announcing it to everyone- so now I'm starting to show a bit and I have no intentions in announcing it. It is none of their business! If you aren't ready, don't tell them. It is your life and they just want a motive to gossip, it's not like they have a genuine concern as a friend would- it's kinda funny now, to hear them still speculate or gossip about me, I just laugh at it!

Answer 4

First of all, congrats on your first baby. I'm sorry they're doing this to you. No, you're not being petty. You don't' have to share details of your personal life/pregnancy, either. You don't have to say one word about your pregnancy until your 8th month if you don't want to. Just be sure to give them notice for maternity leave, that's all you need to worry about. The rest is up to them.

Just because you are around these ill-mannered baboons 40+ hours a week that doesn't mean they are your best friends. Behaving overly familiar with people at work with is poor form.

I would write things on your calendar, like "Caught Jane and Susie snooping around my desk AGAIN." That would be hilarious! Or scribble down numbers that mean nothing to drive them insane. You can always write things like "layoffs" on the 15th. You may as well play with them and have some fun. What are they going to do?

Take care and try to keep your sense of humor!! I think you are going to need to remind yourself that they have no life and are trying to live through yours on a daily basis!

Answer 5

OMG, some people are so nosey! People like that don't have enough to keep them focused in their own lives so they have to pry into the lives of others. If I were you, I'd keep them guessing. Let them think whatever they want but don't give them the satisfaction of knowing until you're ready. I would put fake ramdom appointments all over your calendar just to drive them crazy! (Just make sure you know which ones a real!) Good luck with your pregnancy.

Answer 6

You dont have to tell them...then once you do they will probably be the ones wanting to touch your belly all the time and stuff. When i was working, I quit when I was 22 weeks, but the women always wanted to touch me and stuff and it made me very angry and very uncomfortable.Also I found out about 3 weeks after my fiancee left for a 7 month deployment to Iraq, so they had a good time spreading rumors about that as well, half of them thought i didnt know who the dad was and the other half said i got pregnant for money and all kinds of stuff. So once you do tell them its probably only gonna get worse. Just let them know you dont like it and you will let them know things as you think they should know them. Good Luck and enjoy your pregnancy!!

Answer 7

Keep ignoring their requests for information, but DON'T ignore their rude behavior. Let them know it's completely unacceptable for them to go through your personal belongings fishing for answers. Obviously if you ARE pregnant they will eventually find out. If they're THAT impatient, they're total losers. My co-workers weren't nosy when I was pregnant- I told them pretty early on because I couldn't contain my excitement. This made it more difficult when I had a miscarriage. Keep it to yourself until you're ready to share the information. Congratulations!

Answer 8

Next time you find them going through your stuff just tell them to mind their own business, your right, you dont have to tell them until you are ready, even at that time u just have to tell your boss, not your co-workers. However, i went through the same thing, everyday everyone was asking 100 questions, and wanting to know whats going on, and it does get old, just wait until they are wanting to rub your belly, thats the most annoying thing ever.

Answer 9

You're right, its your business and tell them when you're ready. Everyone knew when I was pregnant too for some reason and I didnt want to tell my Mom til I was 3 months but I had to tell her early because everyone kept asking me and I couldnt tell anyone before I told my mom, so I just got it out in the open.

Answer 10

Some people are just very gossipy -- this happens a lot in an office environment. I would confront them if I were you and just say, yes you nosey biotches!!! Yes I am preggers!!! Now leave me the heck alone!!!

Answer 11

My supervisor is the nosiest of each and every of the noses. How do I deal? I save it actual. :D i'm rather sturdy at conserving a at modern-day face and answering very heavily even while i'm creating an entire tale up or joking, etc. in the event that they ask what you're doing, only tell them. tell them whether you ought to be as imprecise. "Oh, i'm only performing some learn approximately biochemical pathology :| " "rather?" "No. :| " Or in the event that they look at your reveal, shrink the window (as quickly as they have catched a glimpse) and say you're uncomfortable with 'people' (ie. no longer acquaintances, etc.) gazing what you're doing. *And with any luck you're no longer surfing by using porn or something at artwork... They ask you something approximately yet another co-worker - tell them you don't be attentive to or "it could be extremely disrespectful/thoughtless/insensitive to ______ for me to tell etc. etc. i'm hoping you already know..." They stare at your foodstuff - look at them at modern-day in the eyes and say something intimidating or take a huge bite, look at them, smile and circulate "mmmmm...." and smile lower back. Do stuff like that. As you will discover, only be frank and honest and prepare you're pissed or something. that's what I do! :) Works for me.