Please Help me!!!!?

Question

I'm 19 years old and I currently live at home with my parents. I really want to move out of my house but I can't because I don't have a job that gives enough hours. I'm not in college yet but will be by summer. My parents are compliaining that I need to get a job that will give me more hours, But to me it's really hard looking for a job when I don't have reliable transpotation. I can only have jobs that can be accessible though public transportation. I think with all of these worries and pressure that has been placed upon me not to mention being a closeted case (noone know this so I hold it in and its slowly killing me every single day).I think that I may have a emotional and physical breakdown. I just can't take anymore of this. Please Help me. thank you for your opinion

Answer 1

Take a breath. Relax. Think of this, there are millions, literally around the world millions, of people that live in the same constraints that you just described. It is normal. It is life. It seems awkward, but in time will become 'old hat'. Get a grip. Settle down. It is part of growing up. Discipline yourself, and keep trying. Look for opportunities and realize, your parents once had to straight-jacket themselves into the work day pattern and they made it--so there is hope for you. Patience. You'll do fine after you get going.

Answer 2

I know how frustrating (someone actually taught me the right word to this feeling) it could be , but seeing as you're only 19, I bet you have alot of energy to give out to people so my advice to you is to keep at it. Keep doing what you're doing. Their advice about a roomate is actually a good idea if you want that feeling or sense of independence (at least for a little bit).In the mean time (like people have been telling me), keep going to college to earn that degree and work part time. Make sure you open up a savings account so that you can have something for emergencies. Apply for financial aid at the college you're at. If you have enough money to buy a car later, have an agreement with your folks about sharing the costs.My parents split the cost of the car with me when I was 18 and they also paid for the insurance and registration. I still get allowance from them, but since you have a job, you can pay for the gas. If you need help with the up keep of the car, they'll help you trust me! I suggest you buy a good car that's used, but if you want a new car, just make sure you can afford it!

Answer 3

I do understand the feeling of wanting to move out, at 17 I was in your position. I chose to do the wrong thing and move out and was not quite prepared for what the real world would be like. Just keep in the back of your mind that you will have many years ahead of you in which you will be able to express yourself more openly and live the life you wish to. (also to look back and see what stupid things you did with that life) You have access to the computer, so start looking into support groups for gay teens, and you said you are going to be going to college soon, and there are more than enough groups with multiple activities in which you will be able to participate. Also look into possible gay roommates for college that are wanted you can find them on the Internet as well. I wish you the best of luck and do not give up, it does get better even if you do not feel that way now.

Answer 4

find a room mate, tell them who you are amd be happy. find some one that understands you and that dosent judge you, as for a job, there are alot of jobs that will help you, once you get on most of them will give you rides to work, its called carpooling.

Answer 5

It sounds like you have more excuses than gumption.