Does Chivalry worth the need to learn?? I'm not trying to learn it to impress women. I just want to know how to be chivalrous among your peers in the working life, as a boss how to be chivalrous towards your employees or as a superior how to do it to your subordinates, regardless of male and female because I discovered that people who are chivalrous tends to be very well respected by a lot of people regardless of peers or foes especially by their subordinates but nowadays people are no longer chivalrous, even the media always shows that those people tends to get aways are those who are not chivalrous. Even my family also never teaches about chivalry. However I discover that chivalry tends to be taken advantage of it and the hardest fact that is you have to do it also to your enemy. I only know about historical individuals who are famous for chivalry is erwin rommel although he serves for the NAZIs. So guys and girls, whats your opinion on this??
2007-02-01 05:48:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
In as much as chivalry is treatment given to a party that is perceived as weaker, I'd just as soon not be treated that way, especially by my boss. But obviously some women think differently.
2007-02-01 07:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree that chivalry is an outdated concept, as it is best defined as "a code of knightly conduct," that includes loyalty to your leader, and the courtship of "unattainable" women. Chivalry, indeed, can be taken advantage of, as it is an ideal (that never actually existed anywhere other than literature) that is based on feudalism and subjugates a large part of the populace, leading to the idea that women should be "taken care of" by men...at a price. However, you have the right idea. Let's just replace the term "chivalry" with manners and politeness, this is more egalitarian, and more along the lines of what you're talking about. The best way to achieve this is to understand, and live by, the concept of empathy. Treat others as you would want to be treated, basically. It often means thinking of yourself before others, however, it does NOT mean you should let yourself be taken advantage of. Men AND women should live by this.
2007-02-01 16:53:42 · answer #2 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's chilvary so much as polite behaviour. There are ways of treating co-workers and the people who work under you. Try reading up on business etiquette, they have books like that in the business section. In todays workplace, chivalry can be seen as treating women as lesser, and so you have to be careful, so read things specifically for learning about how to be polite in the business world.
2007-02-01 16:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Whiskey Tango Foxtrot 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like a benefit all would enjoy.
I would like to add that learning how to be chivalrous and how to accept chivalry needs help. I see some who have never been treated well, and they look mighty awkward when they receive the benefits of such graciousness.
2007-02-01 14:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Thomas men need to show Chivalry and women need to appreciate those who do. Every man should honor himself by being pleasant.
2007-02-01 18:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Read Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People."
Good luck!
2007-02-02 00:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its out of date with todays women
it may get you in bed but if you think it will give staying power wake up - they will wiped you off thier **** especially the younger ones
it is looked at as weakness -
men and women are more androgenous than ever in behavior - showing characteristics of both sexes and thus benefitting socially
2007-02-01 16:06:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're wasting your time trying to learn it. There's a reason no one is chivalrous anymore.
2007-02-01 16:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by plehaq 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋