i love my bf to death but we constantly fight over stupid things..he calls me a bit** and hits me but we will b playing and im 15 pregnate with his baby and sometimes he says f*** me and the baby.but then he says sorry!what should i say to him to let him know i dont like the way he treats me???
2007-02-01 05:34:30 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
it sounds like he loves to F*ck you but not much else. I would dump him and go for his brother, or a best friend of his or his father. that will get back at him.
2007-02-04 20:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by Chad 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Man you are headed down the rough road. Having a baby at such a young age is going to put a damper on your life. You have not even begun to live. Now you have two people to worry about. I'm 35 and live alone and struggle to pay all my bills. I could not imagine being 15 with nothing and a child on the way. Well good luck and I hope things go well. At age 15 I think Love is more like lust.
2007-02-01 05:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh darling, trust me from experience. I am 24 and have been in a similar situation. Do not ever let anyone hit you. He doesnt love you. Love doesnt involve violence. He may very well be sorry, but thats no excuse. He isn't playing. He could hurt you or worse, kill your baby unintentionally. Find someone close to you that you can trust and get away from him! Your baby will thank you! It doesnt matter that he will not be in the childs life, at this point its not worth it no matter how much he appologizes. Talk to a parent or trusted adult and be honest with them. They can help! What your boyfriend is doing is abuse, and he needs help as well or he will begin a lifetime of abusing women. Best of luck and whatever you do, you must be strong!
2007-02-01 05:39:52 · answer #3 · answered by reauxmarie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your boyfriend? DON'T answer that. Just consider it.
At 15 you are considered to be under age but then you probably know this.
Calling people names, especially when you are supposed to be in love with them, is not nice. In fact it shows that he is not mature enough to not "throw stones" and get rid of his aggression in a decent and positive manner.
HITTING another person is criminal. The others are right- you must not "be" with him. I put "be" in apostrophes because I am not clear what your living arrangements are- surely you live at home with your parents/guardians?
"Domestic violence" where a man (or a woman) hits their partner is a really big issue. When it starts it seems not too bad. But when the other person allows the hitter to make excuses and then begins to make excuses for them it becomes dangerous. Far too dangerous for you, at 15, and for your unborn child.
Speak to your parents.
And ask them to help you tell this boy to leave you alone.
OK? Do this for your own safety because no matter how much you love him his behaviour is not worthy of YOU.
I would address how it is totally normal, at your age(s), to fight about "stupid" things but there is not much point- the violence is too grave an issue to even consider letting him be part of YOUR future. He may be the child's father but if he is even close to you in age (DON'T, please, post his age- if he is older than 16 he is, possibly, in trouble due to YOUR age) then he has a pretty dismal future because he is also too young to be able to cope with impending fatherhood.
I know FEW young men of 15 who would be suitable father material.
It is just not going to happen.
YOU and your baby need your family and not this abuse.
Best of luck.
2007-02-01 05:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you are pregnant and he hits you and calls your a bit**, i would be gettin outta that relationship and callin the police on him. He obviously does NOT care about you or the baby or love you if hes going to be putting you in that kind of danger. he has some real issues.. get rid of him. As for you..being 15 and pregnant, thats tough, i hope you have some good support and a good family thats willing to help you out. Im married and its still tough sometimes. But, good luck, and i hope everything works out.
2007-02-01 05:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by meg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
frist off congrats on the baby. second just let me tell u something if you dont like they way he treats you honey jus come out and say it kuz like the old saying goes "a closed mouth don't get fed" and that is so true the longer u keep it to yourself the longer he gon keep doin the s**t and as far as him sayin f**k u s**t f**k dat ni**a but for him to say f**k yo baby now he's dead a** wrong and u need to bust his head for da s**t seriously kuz dat right there anit no joke then u just let him get off by jus sayin sorry he anit sorry if he keep doin the same s**t im not tryin to be in your bizness or break up ur family or anything im jus keepin in 100% real with you u dont need all dat access stress its bad enough you 15 and pregnate and your body is goiong through so much as it is and 4 him to add on to it is jus not healthy for u or ur baby so basically wat im sayin is he needs to stop with the bullshit ASAP or he doesn't need to be in your life kuz honey u kan do bad by ya damn self. listen i did a little lookin and found some info that i think u should read. go to marchofdimes.com amd type in is stress good for pregnat women and read it ur sure to be suprised at what you find out stress cand do to you and your baby. that is not love at all in no way shape or form. good luck hope u do the right thing not jus for u but for ur unborn child
2007-02-01 06:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im also 15 and if it were me i would leave him and you might want to think about whats goin to happen with the baby..if your parents will help you out or if u think u can handle bein a single mom ok. or you will have to get rid of the baby 15 is a young age to be a mom..just remember what ever you decide is for what is best for you and no1 else .your b/f is an *** and u deserve better..good luck hun
2007-02-01 05:45:08 · answer #7 · answered by PhotographyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, get the hell out of the relationship! You deserve better. If he is like this now, he will only get worse later. You need to think of your baby. Do you want someone like that around your baby? If he will hit you while you are pregnant he WILL abuse your child.
Get a restraining order and press charges. Be strong.
Good luck. You and your baby are in my thoughts and prayers! If you need more encourgement you can contact me. I allow e-mails.
2007-02-01 05:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by Should be Working! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt really respect you..infact it sounds like he doesnt give a **** about you!
Think about your baby...he could be danger to your baby...
You are a bit too young to be dealing with all of this alone, dont you have parents or friends or aunts or someone who can help you. Tell them about this problem and if you truly believe the relationship can work talk to your bf...
Personally I would've jus left him..(!)
2007-02-01 05:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by Lynne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a situation that is unsafe for you and your baby. Say nothing to him, just leave. Go to your mother, family member, friend, doctor, social worker, anyone who will help. If he is hitting you, esp when you are pregnant, you could lose both your life & your baby's.
Domestic Abuse Hotline:1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Good luck and God Bless!
2007-02-01 05:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by purple 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would get out of that relationship, it is NOT healthy at all, I don't care if your just playing, you shouldn't hit one another. Plus, no guy should talk to you like that even if he says he is playing, he isn't sorry. He just wants you to stick around longer, he is verbablly and physically abusing you.
2007-02-01 05:39:05 · answer #11 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋