mothers who just walk away from thier kids and basically have nothing to do with them unless it is at their convience
2007-02-01 05:25:48 · 7 answers · asked by Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Attitudes like that is probably due to the way they were raised and it is the only way they know-so sad.
2007-02-01 05:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that mothers who don't love and bond with their children probably never learned how from their own parents or some other loving person in their lives. I also think our society does a great job of promoting the glossy side of family: your children will adore you, you will be validated for all you do. And the reality is a lot of hard work and stress, and very little thanks. No wonder the less altruistic among us feel they got burdened instead of blessed with their children. But they're missing out on so much joy.
All children (including grown up children) must remember that just because you don't feel loved, it does NOT mean you aren't lovable. And it does not mean you aren't capable of loving others. Contrary to societal messages, you are not a monster if you don’t feel love and loyalty towards a parent who showed you nothing but indifference. I secretly feared that I was cold like my parents. But when I was in my mid-twenties, during a fight with my boyfriend, I suddenly realized that I was completely infuriated with him and yet bursting with love for him at the same time. That is what every child wishes for--and deserves--from their parents: unconditional love and acceptance, even when we are our human, imperfect selves.
The trick is to not let your parents' failings fester inside you, or buy into shame and self-doubt when people tell you: "Of course your parents loved you. All parents love their children." Trust your instincts, but also trust in the world of love that DOES exist. "You are a child of the universe, no less than the moon and the stars."
2007-02-03 20:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by Joy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you can have a child biologically doesn't mean you can be a mother (or a father, for that matter). Some are not mature enough to give instead of take. Some have other issues that they cannot overcome. It's sad, but perhaps these Moms wouldn't have been the best caretakers anyway.
2007-02-01 05:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is in there DNA my mother only wanted to be in my life when it was convent for her.As her mother before her. I was raised by my great Uncle and Aunt who were older (some say too old to be raising a child) they couldn't have any kids of there own I have adopted bro that is 40yrs my senior Thank GOD for ppl that do care I would hate to see what I would of turned out to be if my Nana and Papa hadn't raised me.(And just between u and me some times I want to leave. but I don't because I'm better than that. I refuse to be come my mother!)
2007-02-01 05:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by notes from an angry white chic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are alot of dirrerent reasons why parents do that.some are depressed and dont know it thers areselfish and think the only one that have to worry about is themselves.i have 2 neices and a nephew going thru the same thing cus their mother would rather do other things then have her children.
2007-02-01 05:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by desikat22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are emotionally disturbed to the point that they cannot even manage themselves, much less the life of a dependent.
2007-02-01 05:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's sad some people are not meant to be moms, I feel so bad for the kids in those situations, my kids are my life!!
2007-02-01 05:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by cowgrl3611 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋