I recently found out that my bf has been talking to other girls. And even met with some of them. I called those girls, they told me that he denied that he has a girlfriend but that he does have a baby, He says he only sees me cuz of the baby and that theirs nothing between us anymore. : ( One girl told me that he wanted to get with her but she didn’t let him. Right now I don’t even know what to do. I love this person so much, He told me that he did the things cuz he felt unappreciated by me. But he dint have to go look somewhere else. And if he felt he wasn’t getting it from me he should have just let me go right??? What would you do in this situation? Will u make it work or will u give up and let him go?
ohh and we have been together for 4 years, we dont live together and we have a baby.
2007-02-01 05:13:04 · 28 answers · asked by Twilight 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You've got yourself a playa. a liar, and one first class loser. He's not trustworthy and he is attempting to make you feel like you are at fault for his wandering ways. So, you've invested 4 years in this guy.... why waste anymore? . If he was really the man you want him to be, he would be with you and your baby exclusively and wouldn't need side benefits. And if he is having unprotected sex, what could he be bringing to your bed ??? Hon, good gamblers say it best.... " you got to know when to fold ' em." The next time you see him, you and the baby both need to wave bye-bye.
2007-02-01 05:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him or do you hate the idea of being alone? He is not committed to you at all. You may think it will be hard to be a single parent, but it sounds like you already are. You have a child together, but don't live together. It would be easier to make a fresh start today than it will be ten years down the road when he's still chasing skirts. You will never be happy in a relationship with someone who doesn't want to be in a relationship.
2007-02-01 14:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say dump his ***! I am going thro the samething except that I dont have a baby. I am very stuck on what to do as you are too. It's easier said then done by all means! You shouldnt have to take his lies and stories and have to wonder from day to day wht he is doing when you're not around. It's not you that had made him feel unapperiacated its him that has done that to you! He can make you feel as low as you let him or you can take control and find someone who will love you and be honest with you truely! Love works in misterious was... What do you and your baby need???? Good luck and hope this has helped in someway!
2007-02-01 13:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by So you think you know me!? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this situation seems bad. I mean if he is denying you then that's not good. I would definitely move on. Yea you love him, but how can you love someone who doesn't love you? If you put up with this, it will get worse. Go and find someone who can appreciate you and love you for you! No one deserves to get treated this way and you don't either. Once he sees you have moved on he will realize the mistakes he has made, but by then it will be too late. Good luck!
2007-02-01 13:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by freddie4ever143 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, I would just let hem go. And I say this because I tried that and it didn't work out. Lets use me for a second; I'm in the army and I give my lady everything. And she still isn't happy, so whit that being the way it is you may have to let hem go. Any way I hope things work out for you and I'm always opening to help people and chat. bezz2007@yahoo.com
2007-02-01 14:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by bezz2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him. Especially with a child invovled you don't need that kind of drama. It's not good for the child or for you. If you are not happy you child is not happy. If he still wants to see the baby I would set some guidelines for him to follow until you get something in writing from th courts. Good luck.
2007-02-01 13:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by cowchic9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please dont lie to yourself... The guy is a cheater and was giving you and excuse giving you a guilt trip saying that he tried to cheat because it was some how your fault. Move on the baby is what you should be focusing on. If you stay with him you will only be hurting your self.
God Bless You and I suggest you pray for youself and your wonderful little child. Ask the Holy Ghost to come into your heart and cleanse you from all of your sins, then ask him to change your life and to open new doors for your future. Have faith and I promise he will listen to your needs.
2007-02-01 13:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like an idiot to me. I would say you find someone else. You have a kid, he lies about you, he has not made any a temps to make a home with you and the child. If he is unsatisfied he should have said something to you and talked to you about it. He is a jerk and you and your child deserves a real man and a real father who will be there. What he said was disrespectful and he degraded you. Do not give him the ability to do it again.
2007-02-01 13:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by Tim VP 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's sad that you love him so much but he doesn't seem to love you. If you were my girlfriend I'd be all over you! What can I say... It looks like he's decided that it's already finished between you two and he'll just stick around for the benfit of his child.
2007-02-01 13:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a dog. Kick him to the curb and find someone that will be proud to be with you. There's plenty of them out there.
You (by yourself) can't make a relationship work, it takes two. If he's not trying, it won't work and you've only wasted energy that you could have used to move on.
2007-02-01 13:18:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋