My long-distance boyfriend of 2years told me 2 weeks ago how unhappy he is with our long-distance relationship. He's been complaining about it a lot these days. we both agreed that we will try our best to move closer to each other within the next 6 months. He has been having a hard time at work with his boss and because of that he has not been promoted as he had hoped to. He has been telling how upset he is that I cannot be there close enough to him and that he is tired of this and it's upsetting him. He said he has needs that I cannot satisfy since I am not close enough to him. So 2 days ago he told me that he wants be less involved with me and to take a distance. He wants to do this until our situation changes. He said that if I want to continue our relationship, I need to accept this. He says he still loves me and cares for me but he doesnt want to spend his time talking on the phone all the time. I was quite shocked. He said that he needs to take the distance to stand the situation
2007-02-01 05:11:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is coming to see me next week.
2007-02-01 05:11:32 · update #1
Have you really asked this question 84 times now? It sure looks that way. Why not read the answers other people have taken the time to give you instead of repeatedly posting it?
2007-02-01 05:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been at this 2 years and he is asking for space, chances are good he has someone else wanting to take care of his "needs". It may not be to late now to keep him but if something doesn't change soon you are going to lose him. There is no way a long distance relationship can compete with actually having someone close enough to hold.
2007-02-01 06:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by Scott V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships hardly ever work out. I say if you really love and want to be with this guy and he feels the same way about you then one of you needs to move. I do not know yalls situation to advise on which would be the better move but yall should discuss it and decide or yall should just simply end it and move on with other people.
2007-02-01 05:18:00 · answer #3 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had better find a way for you guys to live closer. It sounds as if he is already frustrated with the situation and that will lead to wondering. Is it possible for you to move in with him? It sounds as if he really wants to make it work, but he misses you too much. When he comes next week talk to him and see what he is willing to do.
2007-02-01 05:24:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i met my partner, he lived 86 miles away from me but he travelled as often as he could and we were also in contact by phone. We then made the decision together that he would move in with me and my folks, get a job here and then we'd get our own place. Within a year we have moved out are standing on our own two feet, have a child together and are living our new lives together. He has never regretted his decision to move, even when we have our ups and downs as we did this together and know we made the right decision
2007-02-05 01:37:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really surprised he has put up with it for this long.When he said he has needs and your not there to help him with them.This man of yours is crying out for help and there are a lot of women out there that will gladly help him and because your not there for him I think he has found someone else.He tells you he still loves you,tell me something what does (Istill love you )mean ?Remember this man will tell you what you want to hear in order to make a clean brake from you.Don't get your hopes up to high because he is coming to see you,did he leave anything at your house and if so then that is the reason he is coming to see you,and to get one last sleep over and the pity f u c k... I hope I'm wrong about him but he is a man and that's what men do they brake our hearts. GOOD LUCK WITH HIM !
2007-02-01 15:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to say it chick but it looks like he's trying to keep his options open. maybe he has some interest from someone else and wants to explore the option. be prepared as he might already have plans to break up and is just trying to let you down gently (in stages if you will) it's likely that if you get too upset by the distance excuse he'll have a reason to fall out with you and hold it against you. tread carefully. hope it works out for the best.
2007-02-01 05:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Afraid like Violet Pearl I am fed up with you posting this one. Everyone has tried to help. Obviously our input was no use so you'll need to sort it out with him yourself. However if you go on as much as you do on this site you shouldn't be wondering why he wants to take a distance. Sorry not meaning to be hurtful but only other thing I can suggest is a different approach.
2007-02-01 09:46:08 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is coming to see you cos he wants you physically.
Long distance relationships do not work.
Tell him that you are either moving in with him or have a place sorted close to him and see how he reacts.
His new girlfriend would find out and would not be happy!!
2007-02-01 05:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has had it with a long distance relationship and wants to get you much closer geographically.
2007-02-01 05:16:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋