I'm in the early stages of a friendship with a gal (divorced) that I think could lead to a very good relationship down the road. I know that she has been through a lot and her son has been through it as well. The son is highly intelligent and also very protective of her and the people she is around. I have not met him yet, and I don't have exp. with children of this age group. I don't want to "Win" him over, but I want to leave a positive first impression. Advice?
2007-02-01 04:42:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
be honest and friendly, only time will gain the trust. If confronted let him know that you care about his mother too and that you are not trying to steal her away, and that youdon't want to see her hurt either
2007-02-01 04:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by Ruth Less RN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply treat his mother the way she deserves to be treated. In turn, the son will see you are a good guy and therefore, will not only be protective of his mother, but will also be protective with you. I also believe interacting with the son will be good. Considering he is a pre-teen, he may not be open-minded initially. However, over time he should break. Good luck!
2007-02-01 04:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by Nisha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be yourself. He is going to already hate you a little bit. Do not try to act like his father is the number one thing. Do not try to bring him a gift either. The easiest way of getting through this that I have witness was actually by catching the child in a bad act and promising the keep it a secret. The odds of that happening is slim though. Just be yourself and accept him. Find any way to give him some support without mentioning the situation itself.
2007-02-01 04:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by James G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never been in this situation. I would probably try this...
Let the mom handle the first couple of dates. You don't want to be in between a mom and her cub, so-to-speak. If things start to heat up, it would be good for her to introduce you and have a sit down with both of them.
You will need to re-assure that you don't mean to be in the way. Try to relate with him on some level so you have some common ground to talk about, other than his mother. Sports, Music, movies and what-nots, for example are some topics you can talk about.
2007-02-01 05:07:32 · answer #4 · answered by khanofali 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him while Mom is not around and make him part of a plan to give his Mom a nice surprise present. Ask him for advice on what he thinks Mom would like, and make sure you include his name on the card.
2007-02-01 04:50:14 · answer #5 · answered by JoJo 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Treat him with respect. Be positive.
2007-02-01 04:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋