2007-02-01 04:37:07 · 7 answers · asked by KITTY S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It started out good but then he bought a new computer and started playing world of warcraft and its been almost a year since . I thought that he would get tired of it but he hasn't . He also doesn't help me with our son. He tried to get me into the game but I just can't sit in front of a computer all day .I have a son that I have to take care of.He does go to work every day but he gets off work at around four in the afternoon.He tells me that he just Wants to unwind after a hard day which I know that he likes playing but I mean that he could spend more time with me and my son. I am so upset because I know that we can be a happy family if he would just get off the computer.
2007-02-02 00:51:19 · update #1
I've a recovered WoW addict, and I'll tell you, there are 2 things you can do to get him back:
1) Many people play this game because it gives them a sense of importance. People depend on them and they can make a difference (positive or negative) in peoples lives (online). They are more important in that community then they are in real life.
Give him a reason, other then "nagging" him about his responsibilities in life, to choose you and your family over WoW. Plan things that the whole family can do together out of the house. Be more aggressive sexually. Offer solutions instead of pointing out the problem.
2) If that option doesn't work, you have to give him an ultimatum. The game or the family. You may even have to go stay with a friend or family for a night or two to get your point across.
My wife used step two to get me off the game, and used step one to keep me off. Now I've realized that I need to stay away if I want to be as happy as I am now.
2007-02-01 05:08:38 · answer #1 · answered by Robert San 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is your brother. Of course he isn't going to listen to you. It could be that he is addicted, but don't blame WoW - what he would be addicted to is escaping from reality. WoW just does it better than most other methods of escapism. Honestly, the clues you give are not enough to make me think there is an addiction to WoW as much as he just doesn't want to be with the rest of his family (typical teenager.) If your parents are willing to listen, encourage them to configure parental controls, and control the hours/time he can play the game. If they are not concerned, or think that it is a phase, listen to them. 12 hours a day is not a lot during the summer, if they have nothing better to do. As a sibling, what you can do is find something else that may interest him. And leave him alone when he is on the computer. Most teenagers don't like to be interrupted, and unless he is doing something that allows for easy multi-tasking, you may be distracting him at a poor time.
2016-05-24 02:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't control himself, he needs to recognize it and address the problem. As with any addiction, the most beneficial thing to do would be to give it up - but of course it's the hardest. If he himself doesn't see it as a problem, and is not willing to work on it - there isn't much you can do. My husband and I have been playing this game for 2 years, but we're not addicted; we manage ourselves just fine. Unfortunately, some people are unable to draw the line. My brother-in-law is on this game day and night, he lives with his parents and isn't working at the moment; it is totally dysfunctional. Sounds like your husband is one of the people who are susceptible to this kind of addiciton. Suggest going to counseling together - I just don't know if he can possibly find a free moment between AQ and the Caverns of Time (I'm being sarcastic). He has to figure out for himself what his priorities are. If nothing you say or do gets his attention - perhaps the divorce papers will.
2007-02-01 05:10:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something really out of the ordinary to try and get his attention .. stand in front of him naked, have a romantic dinner waiting for him when he gets home, etc.... If that does not wake him up, give him an ultimatum.....his family or the game....
2007-02-01 04:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by Tom A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him to grow up and tell him that he has a family to support...my little brother plays that game and i hate it cuz hes failing in school...i broke the game and deleted it from the computer and his grades came up dramatically.
2007-02-01 04:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by The J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send the kid to daycare and get his attention strip right in front of him if he can resist he aint a good man
2007-02-01 04:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by wil w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him then
2007-02-01 04:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋