Why do people think stay home moms and wives are caretakers?

Question

I feel if i stay home and my husband goes to work everyday then i should pull my weight at home and do things to make his life easier.I do these things also because i love him so much I don't want to see him unhappy.He feels the same for me in return he would do anything to show me he loves me he doesn't take me forgranted at all and if i want anything all i have to do is ask.So why do so many people think that we are caretakers?Why do women who work say bad things about stay home moms?

Answer 1

their jealous. Your a good woman if you take care of a hard working man and do it good. Just work hard at keeping your man happy cause they can't.

Answer 2

Wrong? No! I wish I was strong enough to be a stay at home mom. But I require adult interaction and need some time away from home or I lose my mind. I really wish I could be content being a stay at home mom and work on making my house a true home. And even once the kids are old enough to be in school all day, most of the time is spent volunteering and helping with classrooms and school stuff. I admire the moms that can afford to be stay at home moms and have the stamina for it!

Answer 3

Do not worry what others say. If you are happy this is all that matters.
I stay at home but also take care of my disabled son, so in reality I am a caregiver. Nothing wrong with being a caregiver, even if it is to the family.
I was in the "working" world. I worked primarily man jobs. Machinery is something I love and I am good at making things. This job at home is much harder then any job outside the house. Mentally that is.

Women who work and have kids, families more of them then not would love to be able to stay at home. When there child is sick they still have to go to work. This makes a mother feel like crap! When our kids get sick we are here to care for them. We do not have to leave our children with strangers. We can raise our kids how we see fit and not how someone else sees fit.

Do not worry about what these others say. My mother and sisters work. I am the only one of the bunch that is staying home. They only wish they could. They tell me this too. They may have more spending money, and have more things. But I get to be a part of my childrens life, they grow up so fast!!

Answer 4

actaully i have never heard of the term caretaker. i have heard home maker. i stay at home and i take care of my daughter keep the house clean run the house, etc... my belief is the women who down us are just jealous. when you listen to women say i am an idependent woman bla bla bla in the next breath they do not want to be with a man who will not pay their bills you know. being a home maker is a very important job. children get in less trouble when they have a possitive role modle in the house and good structure. most working women are single mothers or just do not have children. look at the product that working women have given since women's lib. there was no such thing as shoot outs in school. child drug abuse has sky rocketed, moral ethics in this country are almost extinct. cheating used to be something to be ashamed of in the 50's but now it is so rampid a majority of marriages do not make it. most marriages in the united states fail. its all about society. what womens lib did in the beginning was a good thingg. fighting for women to have some rights. but i believe that womens lib also took away from the family unit and the values that are SUPPOSED to come along with it. oh yes and one more thing. it is amazing on how millions of americans feel it is alright to pro create witth out marriage. they see nothing wrong with this. when i think of how much money the system poors out on people who continue to have children and leave the country to pay for it, i wonder why it is that these men are not looked at to take care of the children they father. thank you women's lib

Answer 5

I have never cared what anyone had to say about my position as a stay at home Mom. I've always put down, in that little blank space " Domestic Engineer". I am the proud Mother of 5 grown well adjusted married children. When they came home from school, I was there. We spent wisely and lived on a Military income until retirement. Yes, it can be done today. Depends on your priorities. Mine where my home, husband & children.
Praise God for all STAY AT HOME MOMS LIKE YOU & I~~~

Answer 6

I haven't heard anyone say to me that I'm a caretaker, but my husband does take me for granted. Very inconsiderate and insensitive.

When I was sick at home with the flu, my insensitive freak left them with me instead of taking them to our sitter. I was nursing an 104 fever, sweating and had to breastfeed our daughter at the time while my toddler son demanded attention.

I don't just make sure my toddlers eat 3 full meals a day, I make sure they're clean, home is clean, laundry and cook dinner, juggle some 20 odd bills, drs appointments, collect rent from tenants, help him pack and ship, invoice buyers on ebay as well as list...the list goes on.

I'm a hardworking stay at home mother, and my hands can testify to that...they're constantly dry and cracked from all the washing and mopping I do!

Answer 7

I think we should find another word for stay at home moms because I am one and everytime I tell someone Im a stay at home mom they act like i dont do anything but I take care of my child day in and day out with no breaks!!!! Thats a hell of a lot more difficult than a 9 to 5 job they get to go home and rest untill the next work day we dont get that!!!! Our job is a 24/7 job theirs is a 40 hour a week job they should give us more respect!!!!!! I think they do this because they are jealous of us wee get to stay home and they have to go to work!!!!

Answer 8

That is such a great question. I to am a stay at home mother and wife. We are not caretakers, however we do take care of those we love. I think our job is difficult and never ending. I take pride in what I do, and do not understand why other women seem to look down on those of us who choose to stay home and raise our children. I want to raise my own children and not the local day care facility.

Answer 9

I am a mother with a full-time job, and I would never say anything against women who stay home. I stayed home with my son until he was almost a year old and I couldn't handle it. I had a job that never went away.

Now I can spend my day at work, relax without a toddler screaming or hanging on my hip, and go home to actually enjoy my time with my son.

Being a stay-at-home mom is a challenging, 24/7 job and I praise you for being able to do it.

Answer 10

Bless you, shared responsibility makes for powerful couples and great families. Too many people today are taught to be selfish. Selfishness has nothing to be with being a couple.

Socity will talk down on you though because your not being a selfish person and being a good mother is embarassing to the poor choices they are making.

Your husband is a lucky man and you have lucky children.
Rembermber responsible people will aways get torn down by irresponsible people, that is the responsibilty curse.

I just Love your question :)

Answer 11

They are feminazis! I am a stay at home mom and I do all of the cleaning so my husband can come home and spend time with his son and rest. He works hard so I dont have to and he deserves that same respect from me when it comes to the house. Hes very respectful and doesnt treat me like his servant and on the weekends he will sometimes help me with the chores if I am busy or tired. We have a 50/50 relationship and anyone who wants to knoc something like that is ignorant. The bottom line is working women who act like feminist wackos suck! Good for you and what you do!!!