I moved four states away from home to get away from my overbearing father. I've been gone for about three years. I have talked regularly on the phone with him. Now that I am somewhat independant, we get along great. Yesterday he told me that if I work for him, he will leave me a third of his company. The other two thirds would be split between my two brothers. I feel that I might be strong enough to be near him again. What do you think? He wasn't abusive or anything, just hard to live with.
2007-02-01 04:04:45 · 8 answers · asked by Audrey B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My brothers already work for him.
2007-02-01 06:58:50 · update #1
Well first off working with a family member is not like living with them in there home. People tend to have different personality from home to work. You might like working with him. Also it gives you a chance to get to know him better because lets face it our parents aren't around forever and maybe he wants to spend time with you.
2007-02-01 04:11:01 · answer #1 · answered by tinkerbell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are saying he will already freely give each of your brothers a third, but you MUST work for him to get your third? Is that what you mean?
If you decide to work in your family's business, make sure you have a signed employment contract specifying your responsibilities, etc., just as is done for other employees. I've seen family members get "abused" at work by things being tossed on them just because they are in the family and "should take care of it for the family".
Use professional judgment for employment opportunities.....but then, if you are talking millions $$$, you might just learn to say YOU'RE THE BOSS to your father and keep on doing what it takes to satisfy him...IF THAT IS WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY.
iF NOT.....MOVE ON... TO YOUR OWN WORLD OF WORK.
2007-02-01 12:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by donkey hotay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would he not leave you a third anyway? only do what you feel is right, dont be pressured or blackmailed into it. It sounds a bit unfair of him to say you will be left part of the business only if you choose to go home. Be careful, and be your own person. good luck
2007-02-01 12:08:41 · answer #3 · answered by katyllou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want, move back but live on your own away from him and don't talk about personal things like men to him. It sounds nice, I wish I could have a secure financial future like you going to have.
2007-02-01 12:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky girl! Go and work for him.You don't have to live with him, though. You can always rent a place of your own. yes, why not. You cannot get a better deal.
2007-02-01 12:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just expects the best out of you i suppose sometimes its hard to live up to peoples expectaions and it does get frustrating.. just make sure he knows your doing your best.. and trying your hardest ..
i'd go for it as it seems like a good oppurtunity for you in the long run..
2007-02-01 12:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go, make sure you get it in writting.
2007-02-01 12:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay where you are
2007-02-01 12:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋