Regarding the problem (job related), I can't do ANYTHING about it except just wait.
Regarding the boyfriend, it just pisses me off how obnoxious and inconsiderate he was being about the problem itself (that was the reason for the fight).
How do I deal with the frustration/restlessness of both? I just wanna punch something!
2007-02-01 03:56:33 · 6 answers · asked by melon_rose 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Obviously you aren't going to get any relief from him, he just doesn't get it (MEN!). As far as your job goes just wait and see, it will work out.
2007-02-08 17:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by frigginhilarious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Sorry to hear about this. Maybe go for a run or do punch something, like a boxing bag. Usually when you do something physical, you get rid of the restlessness. This is ofcourse very short term, so for the long term and the improvement of your relationship, try to first deal with the short term and get rid of your restlessness. When you feel calmer, sit down with your boyfriend and explain to him how you are feeling and why. Give very clear examples, try to use I-statements (eg. I didn't feel supported when you said [whatever it was] and I really need your support right now, because this job issue is really impacting on my life".
Good luck
2007-02-08 23:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Chava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a loving relationship, you need someone who usually reacts to your problems by LISTENING. Not advice, but empathy and understanding. And especially not being obnoxious and inconsiderate.
Is this a trend...the way he is in situations like that? If so, he may be your boyfriend, but I surely hope he's not THE ONE.
There are millions of great guys out there, but if you're already in a relationship, you won't be available when one of them comes along ready to have a relationship with you.
2007-02-02 14:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a kick boxing class or even better: get your own punching bag and punch it and kick it! It is a great exercise and if it becomes a dicipline or part of your routine every day, your boyfriend will treat you better!
2007-02-08 13:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by powerkitti1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think that your boyfriend is just adding to the problem rather than offering a solution, you might as well think twice on him,on how he has been reacting. if u feel that he is reactive towards the situation bec of your welfare its positive.but if his reaction signals that he blames you for the whole matter, jus get rid of him for now and give urself sometime to reassess your feelings for him and his impact on your life.
2007-02-08 12:44:31 · answer #5 · answered by jing v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit with him and have a mature discussion about your feelings. What's the sense of being in a relationship without adequate communication? See a therapist.
2007-02-08 11:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by melecia h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋