Question for the men?

Question

I am a stay home mom.I clean house,have my husband's dinner on the table when he gets home,iron his clothes,give him sex about 5 to 6 times a week sometimes every night,I would do anything to make him happy.I take care of our four month old daughter full time.I do not lie to him or cheat or flirt with other men.I do bit#ch sometimes all women do but i only bit$h about wanting more of his time.Anyway do you think I sound like a good wife and what are your requirments for a wife how do you think the houshold should be?What can a wife do to make men happy,I need all men's wants and needs from his wife.....

My husband is a wonderful man and a great dad i am only asking this question for me.Don't get me wrong he appreciates everything i do he always surprises me with something out of the blue.He is a great husband.

I didn't mean it like that with the sex statment We make love and yes i want it too i just worded that a little wrong jesus some of you need to lighten up

I don't do these things because i feel obligated he is my soul mate and he has made me a better person and thats why i do these things because he deserves to have a loving caring wife not because i am insecure or resentful I am asking men's opinions on how they would want their wife to be and if there is more i could do to show my appreciation for my man

and please don't say hope things get better for me this is not a negative question in any way.

Answer 1

yeah sound good to me as long as you both happy other women should take note especially on answers

Answer 2

If you want to be a good wife (and it sounds like you have a very good start) then direct this question to your husband. Afterall, what others may say is not necessarily relevant to what YOUR husband wants/needs. So after the kids in bed and hubby is filled set a good atmosphere and use your own words "what can a wife do to make men happy". You might be surprised to learn that he DOES notice the good things you do right now but just isn't the type to say anything. That's where you need to tell him that if he appreciates all these things he notices, you have to hear it once in a while. Good Luck

Answer 3

Sounds like you have a lot of things you 'give' him...do you consider sex/lovemaking between a husband and wife to be a loving exchange...a way of two people to express their love to each other...or do you consider it something of a duty? How about everything else...do you do it because you want to, or because you think that's what's expected and it's your duty?

From your wording, it all seems to be more of a duty to you and you're looking for something that is missing in your relationship. This is just an observance, since I only know about you from one paragraph.

I think on the surface, what you're doing is probably what many men would want (it would have been great if my ex did even half of what you're doing), but if it's not in your heart, it will show and that little 'something' that seems off now will grow into something larger. My personal opinion is that perhaps both of you need to understand each other a little better and grow into a more loving type of relationship. A man or a woman likes to be respected, appreciated and loved for what they do...it's just that men and women are different. They see things differently, they hold different things at different levels of value, they react to situations differently. Each of you should learn how the other wants to be appreciated and learn to give each other what they need with love, not just from duty.

Answer 4

You sound like the perfect wife.Is he always going out or working too much.If he is working too much he is probably doing it to prove that he is worthy of having you as a wife.If he is hanging out with the boys too much ,then he is just stupid and does not realize how good he has it at home.In either case the only icing on the cake would be if you had an income of millions of dollars a year.

Answer 5

A good wife to me is one that is my best friend, my companion, someone I trust implicitly, someone who always has my back. The rest is just puppy crap. I would never put stipulations on my wife like "you have to keep the house clean, cook my meals, have sex with me X-times a week, take care of my kid", etc. That's not a relationship, that is a caretaker.

My wife is as much her own person as I am. She is with me because she wants to be, not because I control her. I don't place conditions like you mention on our love or our relationship. She has the freedom to do whatever she wants and even to leave if she wanted. And you know what? Because she has it she never abuses it. It's a great feeling to know that she is with me because she wants to be, not because she has to be, and what she does she does because she wants to, not because I have put conditions on her. It means allot more.

Now, if you like doing all this, great. That's how you do relationships. But it sounds like he takes it for granted and you are beginning to resent him for it because you're doing everything you were told a wife should do and he is letting you pamper him like a little kid. You both need to grow-up or this relationship is doomed.

Answer 6

The biggest need of all men is unconditional respect - just as women's greatest need is unconditional love. I would suggest telling your husband that you respect him for working so hard, that you admire him and that he's your hero (of course, don't say any of this unless you mean it). Tell him that you're proud of him and offer him a backrub when he comes home from work.

Read Proverbs 31 - God has a lot to say on what makes a good wife, and mentions that women need unconditional love and men need unconditional respect.

Also, get your hands on the book, "Love & Respect" by Emerson Eggerichs. You can buy it at Amazon.com at the following address... http://www.amazon.com/Love-Respect-Desires-Desperately-Needs/dp/1591451876

Answer 7

You sound like a perfect wife sweetheart. Only about a millon men would snatch you up in a second. Stay the way you are. There are not any wifes better than you. Good luck

Answer 8

I am not a man, but I just couldn't resist putting my 2cents in. While you sound like a dream wife, taking care of all your hubby's needs. It does sound like maybe you are too self-reliant. A guy likes to feel important and needed, strong, and capable. Occasionally he likes to solve a problem for his woman and rescue her from tough situations. If you feel that despite all you do for your man, he might still be unhappy, perhaps it's because you don't allow him to be "the man" because you are too busy being super woman, wife, and mother?

Answer 9

I am not a guy but i can tell you what works for me and my marriage.... Nagging and bugging my husband only frustrates him and makes it worse... Mention what you want one time and do it in a nice calm way and dont ask again.... Spend time with him doing things that he likes to do and treat him the way that you would want him to treat you. If we treat our husbands right and be the best wife we need to be to and for them husbands usually respond to and treat us in a much more positive and loving ways.... I wish you the best and hope that things get better for you soon.


http://www.marriagetoday.org

http://www.drphil.com

Answer 10

You are there and meeting all of his needs. Right now he is working and Maybe instead of having so much sex maybe you two should try to make time for other things. If there is still time for sex then go for it. Just try to spend time doing other things when you have the time.

Answer 11

O feel you're doing a good job, but if you want more of his time then I think that will require you to get a job and help out so he won't have to work sooo much, Other than that you're doing great.