My gf of 3 on&off years broke up with me, again. Once she wanted to get married..I didn't. Now I told her I do. she wants to see others, doesn't beleive my intent, says I'll tell her anything. Should I go talk to her mother? Her mother watches her kid and is in her life daily. They do not always see eye to eye, but maybe her mother can help me understand what I should do next.
Any thoughts?
2007-02-01 03:41:03 · 11 answers · asked by drinkornot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't go to her mother... The relationship is between you and your girl. She may be offended that you discussed your relationship situation with her mother and she could very well push you away even further.
Give her some space and let her know that what you mean is genuine. If it's meant to be, she'll come around. Then be prepared to sweep her off her feet with a romantic proposal. It's what every girl dreams of... Girls do not want to feel like you only want us when you can't have us. Show her that you want her ALL THE TIME.
2007-02-01 03:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by violetmal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems you are a perpetial boy. You shopuldn't be thinking of marrige or even about getting your thing wet. You are obviously not man enough to handle the consequences. Seems like your girlfriend is just a as foolish but may be showing signs of finally maturing -- but she has a kid and she's worried about finding a guy.
Sad, sad, sad,
Her mother should be talking to her daughter and teaching her how to grow up and take responsibility for her kid. Not spending her time talking to a foolish boy. You need to become a man and not take any chances of making children, you're to irrsponsible and immature for that activity.
2007-02-01 11:53:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me like you guys have had a rought relationship anyway. 3 "On & Off years", Broke up "again".
These are signs of a bad relationship, marriage really may not be a good idea. Maybe she's finally realized that.
Right now you probably just want her back because you're used to being with her. I'm sure if you did some soul searching of your own you'll realize, it's just not meant to be.
2007-02-01 11:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy of 3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you need to work this out with your girlfriend. If there's a history of breaking up and reconciling, and the two of you can't communicate well enough to work that out, bringing her mother into it is not going to improve that.
The bottom line is that you and your girlfriend appear to have communication issues and an inability to agree upon the direction of your relationship. You should either get couples counseling or find a more stable relationship with someone else.
2007-02-01 11:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you, yourself, have been flaky. It's about time she moves on to bigger and better things. How talking to her mother would help her trust you again - I have no idea; if anything, it will probably irk her that you went crying to her mom behind her back. If you're teenagers, perhaps talking to a parent would be a good option; but if you're adults, keep it between you two.
2007-02-01 11:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is between you and your gf. Leave her mom out of it. If she's telling you she wants to see others, she probably does. Let her go and find someone who wants you as bad as you want her. Good luck.
2007-02-01 11:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get her mom involved just let her go..... Give her some space.... She is an adult and can make up her own mom... Her mom cannot do this for her. you need to grow up a bit and talk to the gf about it and not the mom.
2007-02-01 12:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the mother out of it. She already knows how her daughter is and is probably shaking her head at the very thought.
2007-02-01 12:07:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of your question it's not a surprise that she has her doubts about sticking to her relationship with you.
Why should you go to her mother? Take the whole thing in your hands!
2007-02-01 11:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
worth a shot...good luck
2007-02-01 11:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋