We've been in a relationship for almost 6 years. It has been great before, but now... he has completely lost interest. For the last 2 years he just doesn't want me in that way... I have to pressure him to have sex... I am a girl, girls aren't supposed to do that. I am hot, lots of guys want me... My boyfriend doesn't want to tell me the reason...
2007-02-01 03:22:56 · 10 answers · asked by baby_marija 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Actually, besides this problem, in everything else we complete understand each other. We have a lot of fun together...
2007-02-01 03:33:51 · update #1
Well I am sorry to tell you this. It is 1 of 3 things. Either he is no longer ion love with you or he is preoccupied with having an affair. No man goes 2 years with no interest in sex. The 3rd option is the worse. He is gay and does not have the heart to tell you how he really is. I know you are thinking another crack pot on yahoo. I actually hold a Masters Degree in psychology and I have a great deal of understanding of relationships, patterns and overall human behavior. You have to realize that your relationship is no longer build on openness and communication. You need a 3rd party intervention to force the communication. Physical interaction between couples serves as the central vital point of closeness and foundation for your relationship. You have to realize that there is a great deal at play here and not forcing the issue will solve nothing. Obviously the issue is one that he is incapable to speak about. This is considered to be a unnerving trigger point. Meaning that he believes that conveying his true feeling swill end the relationship. He desires to hold on to you as a source of comfort but also does not wish to hurt you. The reality is he is hurting you through rejection of you on a physical level. Sex is also mental, emotional and fundamentally important in your relationship. Seek counseling right away. You can live your life in doubt and wondering what is the true nature of the problem. The average male in a relationships of 7 years or less has sex 2-3 times per week. The average marriage at this point is 2x per week. Ask yourself when was the last time he initiated the love making? What are is daily patterns like? Does he have time to be in a sexual relationship with either another woman or man? Does he frequently receive phone calls on a cell? Take the calls outside? Spend time on the internet. In the last 2 years was there anything dramatic in your relationship? The clues are all around you. Don't wonder about it though. Take the action you need to either resolve the relationship or end it. In the end you are only wasting your time if you do nothing. At this point what do you stand to loose? btw, most men would never complain about their girlfriend or wife taking the lead on sex. It is alright for you to be the aggressor. It is abnormal for him to have no interest in sex. Most importantly! Be cautious when it comes to advice on yahoo. Most people only answer to be comical or unfortunately low class. Take advice with a degree of reservation. Do not take action that will only hurt yourself. I.E. Sleeping with other men, introducing wild sex antics into the bedroom. The trust must first be re-established for a rekindling to occur between the 2 of you.
2007-02-01 03:33:24 · answer #1 · answered by Mario L 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow, as a guy I just cannot imagine not wanting to be with my girl? I have only felt that way 1 time. Guess what? I was cheating like a freaking dog. Yes, hard to admit, but true. I basically had a girlfriend on the side and I lost my desire to be with her. The other girl was hot and full filled every fantasy. She pretty much had to tackle me to get me to have any interest. Not to be a a hole or sound like I am proud of myself for doing that. I am just giving you a heads up that your man has got to be up to no good. I think Mario really explained it in a nice way, but basically he is getting somewhere else. Wake Up!
2007-02-01 07:10:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some guys..err man-boys..think of women (doesn't matter if you have been together for 6 years) as play things..toys if you will. Now, when a kid gets a toy, sure it's great when you first take it out of the box..you will play with toy for hours on end and it is fan-frickin-tastic..as time goes by though..your interest wanes..after all..it is just the same old toy right??? You need to slap a new coat of paint on that sucker and he will diddling your doohickey in no time!! LoL Honestly though..he might have some side action or he might be GAY..last but not least..he may just have begun to find the sex repititious and you both need to work together to make it SPICY!! Hoozah!!
2007-02-01 03:33:49 · answer #3 · answered by Blind Sighted 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If your BF says he doesn't want to tell you why, then in the calmest manner(cause lets face it, this is a topic) possible you need to just let him know simple and plain that it really effects your emotions(on whatever lvl) and if he isn't willing to discuss the matter then maybe things between you 2 should change.Good Luck
2007-02-01 03:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by pntnmrmansmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really want your own independence and a fiercy healthy life, and if satisfaction of your natural sexual instinct is necessary for you, you must find a strategy.
Conversation with different men may help you find friends and learn (and teach) a lot of things, and also find a companion who may fall in love with you and who fiercily wants to respond to your normal natural need, so fiercily that you may have to set limits to sexual enfolding and so propose possibilities of harmonizing your life interests with his life interests.
Sex is one of a few basic needs of life but in a male-female relation it may often be grabbed as a starting point. Life adventure is a lot more than just mating but life without mating is kind of no life. No?
2007-02-01 03:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by pasquale garonfolo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave him and come to me! 2 years!!! How old is he? I am in my 30s and cant live without it for more than 2 days. My gf knows that, and thank god she likes it too.
Turn him on with words or actions on what he likes most, be it a particular style or a particular method. Excite him by action and words.
If he is impotent, let him take viarga and stimulate him with your tounge.
2007-02-01 04:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by Ebby 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it doesn't matter how hot you are! you obviously have nothing else to offer besides looks so he is NOT INTERESTED. but at the same time he doesn't wanna hurt your feelings and break up, so he will be a dick until you break up with him. that way he won't be the bad guy... go f u c k all those other guys that want you...
2007-02-01 03:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well either he got a chick on the side or he got a problem if i was you i would live the sorry ***** alone
2007-02-01 03:36:27 · answer #8 · answered by MRS DEE 2 U 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
only he can answer that but sounds to me like it's time to move on......good luck
2007-02-01 03:28:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is dumb
2007-02-01 03:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by sd_andrea86 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋