i went off birth control a year ago and i didnt tell my boyfriend. (he still thinks i am taking my shot) when we discussed kids he said he wanted to wait another year.... i really want to have another baby... (my son is almost 6) now i might be pregnant. how do i go about telling him if i am? should i just tell him that i got pregnant on birth control? or tell him the truth?
2007-02-01 03:15:01 · 12 answers · asked by want a princess baby 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
maybe people will dissagree with what you did but i dont i have such a desire for a baby i did the same but got caught he was ok bout it thou as i didnt fall. I wouldnt tell him the truth act as shocked as he will be as long as he wont find out whats the point of causing a row. Good luck and i hope you are pregnant hun. Sounds like this baby is very much wanted by you!!! Hope your boyfriend come round im sure he will once the angel is here.
2007-02-01 03:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You really should find out for sure first. Don't worry him if it's nothing. But you also really should have told him that you went off birth control. There goes that whole trust issue. Even if you aren't pregnant, TELL HIM that you're not on birth control anymore. He'll probably be mad and upset and hurt. He has every right to be. No matter what, pregnant or not, the TRUTH is always better than a lie. You're going to have to tell your doctor the truth. And chances are, he'll have to be there.
2007-02-01 03:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Future Mrs. Chandler 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him the truth, because it is possible he may start going to the OB/GYN with you, and it is part of your records. And the likelyhood of getting pregnant while on Depo-Provera is extremely small. If he finds that out, he will know the gig is up. And one he knows, he will never be able to trust you again when it comes to really important things.
No offense, but... Frankly, I hope you aren't pregnant. What you are doing is wrong. Having a child is a very serious step in both parent's lives, and shouldn't be undertaken lightly. Your boyfriend probably had a good reason for wanting to wait. You decided to force the issue upon him while lying to him that you were using birth control.
Sheesh, this question sounds like it is coming out of a really bad romance novel.
2007-02-01 03:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by Garylian 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you scared to tell him cause he might break up with you? - that is really the only reason i see to lie- and even then it isn't very good.....
but I do know plenty of ladies that have told their spouses the get pregnant while on B.C. (when they weren't taking it) - It would work to your benefit if he never went to the doctor with you... otherwise it may come up in the Doctors office....
Why did you go off of your shot? - and why isn't he taking more charge of B.C.? - you sould have told him a year ago that you stopped and he could be using condoms or anything--- that way it's in his court about getting pregnant.... and if he got upset you could blame it on him (don't i sound awful now???)
just take a deep breath- verify if you are or aren't pregnant - and take it step by step.... of course- honesty is the best... and hard at first ... but it's harder to keep up a lie your entire life...
As for how to tell him- just tell him straight out-- at least you have already talked about kids-- the door is cracked open for you to start
Good luck
2007-02-01 03:25:06 · answer #4 · answered by Fiddle Dee Dee... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a hard one.Is there anyway you can bring up the question about another baby to him again without him assuming anything? Just to see how he answers.We all know the right thing to do but I also understand what it might be like if you tell him you kinda did this.Well, I would probably take the chance and tell him that you did stop taking it. He'll get over it sooner or later.But I would make sure that you are for sure pregnant before you put him and YOU through that.Good Luck.....
2007-02-01 03:22:14 · answer #5 · answered by KIM L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 20:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always be honest from the start but I would say wait till you get the results of a blood test and then tell him. You might want to tell him the truth so that you feel better but he might end up dispissing this baby if he feels you tricked him tough one though, Only you know your boyfreind and if he might have a abad reaction.
Good Luck
2007-02-01 03:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by neicee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest, you cant possibly base your relationship on lies especially about an innocent life. I'm not trying to judge but that's no way to bring a baby into a world where the father doesn't even really want kids now, in the future if you are pregnant it could cause him to resent you or even worse the baby. You cant make someone have a baby before they are ready, so in my opinion you need to come clean.
2007-02-01 03:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by jjsgirl0919 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u don't tell it's might be a too late when you will be sure that you are pregnant. But if you will ask him what he thinks about another baby with him (i suppose the other one he is not the father) If he wants a baby then tell him the news, if don't hide this until u'r sure....
2007-02-01 03:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by John B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not just wait till you know for sure before worrying about telling him.
2007-02-01 04:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋