Do I bother?

Question

I have a friend who I met at a 'mums & tots' group and we got really close for about 18 months. She moved away to a nearby village and now only communicates if I ring her or text her. When I've invited her to go out she says yes then doesn't come and doesn't ring to say why. It's strange because we got on so well and I'm sad because I miss her. Am I being scraped off?

Answer 1

As a mommy myself and having had similar experiences, all I can say is appreciate the friendship while it lasted and let it go! Don't take it personally....as a mommy yourself I am sure you can understand that "things" come up and time slips by much to quickly and new friendships are forged and well, if she didn't have the decency to call you and talk to you about how difficult it would be to continue to get together or tell you why it is she is cutting off the relationship then you really don't need her in your life (let alone your kids lives) anyway. It is sad, and I can relate to how you are feeling but just remember one thing....as our little ones grow up and grow on so do the friendships we form. And sometimes, when we get really lucky, we find a truly wonderful person to befriend and it lasts a lifetime. So, appreciate all of the true friends you currently have in your life and continue to be the strong and beautiful mommy that you are. Most importantly remember that you are the first and most important teacher in your kids lives so how you handle this situation is extremely important in teaching your children about love and friendship and respect. I wish you much luck and DO NOT be hard on yourself regarding this situation, it was your Friend that made the choice to not continue with the friendship you once had...not yours! Best wishes and I will have a good thought for you today

Answer 2

Maybe she has some things on her mind. If I take myself as an example, when I feel depressed, stressed or have things on my mind ( eg relationship wise) I tend to crawl underneath my rock and tend to avoid people, especially friends I dont know too well yet. Simply because I dont want to bother them with my sh!t. And sometimes, i am afraid that they find my issues stupid.

So maybe you should ask her if there is something wrong. Go see her, take her out for coffee or something and ask her. maybe she has difficulties dealing with motherhood? Toddlers can be a handful. Or a partner :-)

First ask what is going on before winding yourself up, and perhaps making the wrong conclusions. A friendship ius worth more than that.

Answer 3

I never condone bad behavior and your friend is certainly displaying bad behavior toward you, however is there anything going on with your friend that has changed her? I would ask her if there's anything wrong in her life and explain that you were wondering because she has been pretty irregular in her actions. She might reveal some situations that may be affecting her and then you would have the opportunity to help and be a good friend...however if she has no real excuse then drop the friend

Answer 4

situaions like this are difficult, maybe she has a lot on at the moment or some other good reason so i wouldnt nesicarily worry yet, i was you i would not ring or text her, leave her make the next move so you will know where you are.

its sad to loose a freind but allways remeber as one door closes in life another opens

take care

Answer 5

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Answer 6

mmmm does sound a bit strange, it could be just that you have drifted apart with the move but it could also be something she might think you've done that you might not see. why dont you call her and explain what your feeling and ask is there anything wrong or is it just that shes busy etc. tell her you miss her maybe she misses you too and is too afraid to say.

Answer 7

Unfortunatly there are people like that, one of my former freinds is so much like that. Never calls or text me unless she wants somthing or her life is a mess! When we arrange to meet she usually cancels.... Just forget about her, one side freindships are not much fun!

Answer 8

you should first speak to your friend and ask her straight out, its the only way you will ever know, whats the worse thing that could happen? it could be that your friend is feeling a little stuck, in her new home. if that makes any sense.
best wishes
x x

Answer 9

This does happens when friends move on she has probably made new friends i suggest you do the same.

Answer 10

Do we really need to tell you? She hasn't got the guts to tell you directly so don't humiliate yourself any further - find somebody else, SOON.