2007-02-01 02:46:53 · 8 answers · asked by wendy@kevin s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get marriage or family counseling-- 85% of these second marriages with kids fail, so you'll need professional help if you hope to make it.
2007-02-01 02:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two teenage boys and you just noticed that they have two different personalities. Seems that you and your husband both need to grow up. This should have been addressed a long time ago. Seems that you two were thinking about yourselves before the children.
I would start with the boys like this, We're sorry that we have allowed our own self-centered behavior. We would like to raise you to be good mature adults but before we can do that we need to become responsible adults ourselves. This is going to be more then a bit difficult as you have no experience being an adult and we have obviously been fools for a very long time.
2007-02-01 11:08:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Teamwork. Decide together how to deal with disciplinary matters. Be a strongfront...never let the kids see a division between you. You have to stand together or the kids will tear you apart.
Make sure, too, to take time for your children. Just you and your kids go to dinner and he and his kids go to dinner. That will give them time to talk to you about things that are bothering them. Your new marriage was a big adjustment for them too. Listen to their concerns and their fears and try not to take offense.
Never let them use you and your husband against each other.
Be strong, be a team. You can do this. Love is worth it.
2007-02-01 20:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by Rhoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
already done that, caused a divorce, as each parent seems to want to protect their own child, and each spouse sees the others child as being the problem. nothing works, each child will be fighting with the other and try to get the other child in trouble, than when the disciplining comes in ,the parent of the child getting disciplined will react, accusing the other spouse of wrong doing.
2007-02-01 11:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a united front and stand by each other for them in discipline and how you raise them... They may try to play you against each other that is why you have to be stable and agree on things.. Do not ever let them see you argue or disagree either.
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2007-02-01 11:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work together and communicate - sit down and decide what rules you will enforce and enforce them. Teens love nothing more than parents who don't work together and communicate!
2007-02-01 10:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
teens are teens -- you guys need to think back when you and your spouse enjoyed the teeage yrs- enjoy both personalities
2007-02-01 11:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry---been there done that ---and it didn't work out -- not at all--got divorced...
2007-02-01 10:49:21 · answer #8 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋