A woman I know who is 45 just found out that her 73 years old parents were both homosexual. The story is that they knew that when they married out of college. Had four kids, lived in a suburban picket fence neighbordhood but until they were about 60 ( for some reason they "gave up all that" then) and continue to live as husband and wife, taking care of one another in their old age. Although I wonder why they bothered to tell the kids, I told her there is nothing to solve or confront. Let it go.
2007-02-01 02:45:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What they said to her was that they gave up homosexuality at 60. Again, why tell her these details?
2007-02-01 02:52:47 · update #1
I agree, let it go. If they had a good life together and raised a great family together. It sounds like they were compatible with one another. It doesn't sound like a problem to me.
2007-02-01 02:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by southern_bellechick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not seem like we are getting all the story here. Maybe they needed to clean their closets out before they got much older or maybe one of the children has made some hostile anti-homosexual comments that offended them. We do not know what if anything prompted this information being shared by the parents, but there is nothing that can be changed and the two of them are still together taking care of each other, so I see not problem or issue. They are still mom and dad, they are still living and they seem to care for each other, why even worry?
2007-02-01 02:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they were afraid the kids would hear it from someone else.
It has to be hard to hear something like that from the people she has looked up to all her life. She must feel cheated and feel as though she lived a lie.
However, her parents must love each other, to stay together and care for one another.
Maybe she should get counseling...help her work through all of this.
2007-02-01 13:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by Rhoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they may have chosen to tell her because some people are honest and feel people should know. i'm sure this was something that was very stressful for her parents raising her as a couple. i have a friend who's mother was gay, she had 4 children, and once the youngest one graduated high school, she came out to them and moved in with her lover of 20 something years. she and her husband had a wonderful relationship and raised the kids together. the 4 of them are stable, capable adults.
i agree with you, it's all water under the bridge.
i don't know if this answered your question, but i just wanted to put my 2 cents in.
2007-02-01 03:21:39 · answer #4 · answered by marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably felt compelled to "come out" to their kids because it made them feel better. There is nothing she can do about it and no reason to confront them on it. That would only cause more anxiety. I say just let it go & treat them like always. They must love each other enough to stay together and take care of each other.
2007-02-01 03:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. They chose a different life style of their own and gave her a wonderful life. She's really lucky. I guess they wanted her to know what they sacraficed for her. And the strange part is that they made it with out divorcing.
2007-02-01 02:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems that her parents set the right examples for there children.
Nothing to sweat. Beets what these kids get now days.
2007-02-01 04:28:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably did that because they were afraid to come out. Especially back in the day where it was less acceptable. I say move on. Life keeps going... :)
2007-02-01 02:50:08 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, they should have not told her anything. She'd be better off mentally. And if she can, let it go. All we can do is pray for them. n
2007-02-01 02:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they was wrong for saying it but its true nothing to do let it be life goes on
2007-02-01 02:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by paul lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋