Guys, do you think some women let themselves down when placing expectations on a man?

Question

I don't mean this in a bad way, but I am starting to wonder do women set themselves up to be hurt when we expect our men to come through for us. I will give a couple of examples:

1) He said he was going to call so u expected him to. He then calls the next day and say I was watching the game last night sorry, but u thought he was going to call because he said he would.

2) You go out on a date & u would like for him to take u out, but u end up going dutch because he is on a budget. You would like for your boyfriend to take u without going dutch.

3) He says he will call u & does not but really does not have an answer as to why if u don't ask he just acts like nothing is wrong. Is that the women putting to much into a phone call & if u think so what's wrong with the women thinking I just want him to keep his word.

These are all simple things, but I am asking do we as women put to much into these small things, are u guys not keeping your word, or do u not think like that.

Answer 1

The beauty of arranged marriages is no expectations.

Answer 2

I think that you give as much respect as you earn in a relationship. The first time you tell your man it's okay he blew you off or didn't call you or something when you made definitive plans, means you just gave him leeway to blow you off in the future. The same goes with everything. The first time a guy hits a girl and you take him back, he'll do it again. If you catch him cheating and you take him back, he'll do it again.
This is about self-respect. And if you don't have any, you won't get any in return. No man wants a woman that just gives in. Men pride themselves on strong women.

Answer 3

I have yet to meet a woman who is like this, I call women when they ask me to, because I like to be a man of my word, and I do it. Now, when I have told some women to call me on a Saturday, lets say, they don't call till the next Friday. I think we just need to stop putting all of our trust in a human being, because we will be let down, one time or another. With all that being said, don't stop trusting, but don't put all hope and all trust into one person, God is the only one who won't let you down, and that is fact.

Answer 4

some women to let themselves down by putting high expectations on a man that they love. however, your expectations were not high. you just wanted him to keep his word. this would have been the right and respectful thing for him to do. unfortunately many guys do not have that kind of respect so it is due to lack of respect on his part not due to your expectations being too high. don't worry too much about it. if you feel that maybe things aren't working out betweenyou and him then you need to find someone else. there are guys out there that will respect you and keep their word. you just have to look a little harder. hope this helps. good luck.

Answer 5

I think this sounds a little stereotypical, honestly. For one thing, my boyfriend calls when he says he's going to call. He is on a budget, so sometimes I pay for both of us, sometimes he pays for both us, sometimes we pay for ourselves separately. He wants to take care of me. We are in the same frame of mind with our relationship - meaning, if and when we get married, he wants to have a good enough job to support both of us in case I decide I don't want to work. It's just the personality of the person you are dating - guy or girl. They could be very selfish. They maybe just don't understand how it works. Maybe you're not making yourself clear as to what you want in the relationship. Guys don't get hints. I can't say this enough. If you want him to take you out and pay for you once in a while (I'd say for special occasions. It's not nice to make him go broke for you), tell him. Tell him why you feel this way. Most likely his manly nature will surface and he'll realize that he wants to take care of you. Or his lazy nature will surface and you'll realize, he's not the right one.

Yes women set themselves up for failure and disappointment when they don't calmly converse with guys. You can't expect things, never say anything, and then be sad when it doesn't happen.

Answer 6

now and lower back we only forget approximately. I advise, many females say each and every of the time that adult men are mentally inferior. in line with threat your guy is forgetful, like i'm. to respond to your question, confident they enable themselves down, yet thats because of the fact they placed too a lot magnitude on small issues like calling day after on the instant or something. If he calls the day after and apologizes, then there could'nt be a lot of a situation. Now with substantial stuff like anniversary's or birthdays, i think of its existence want to place an magnitude. yet i dunno. i'm only 18. what do i understand.

Answer 7

I totally agree wtih you here.... But we also need to learn that our husbands are not perfect and to not place such high expectations on them all of the time... How would we feel if they place them on us at times and we could not always live up to them... No one is perfect so no one will always be able to meet our every expectation in life... This is just how it goes. My husband tries his very hardest to do things for and with me and i love him for it but i would NEVER want him to do something that he could not measure up to or be able to afford. My husband pays for my meals and we never go dutch.

Answer 8

First of all, don't blame all men for your guy's poor behavior. Not all men treat women like you are being treated. Your boyfriend is inconsiderate and you should re-evalutate your situation with him...but don't blame all of us.

Answer 9

nothing to get upset about...if it bothers u then dump him and move on

remember they are just men---and not perfect

Answer 10

ok and ur right but some men do come though