why would a married man want to watch prono?

Question

my husband knos I don't like it because they make me feel bad about myself, like if I wasn't good enough, but he gets excited when he passes it on the TV and then watches it for a while. I dosn't like when I wear short skirts or shorts and once I put some money in my bra (it's jus a habit, nothing more), and he told e not to do it, because only whors do that... WHAT? dosn't he like that if he trys to whatch it then? he says "would you let our children do that when we have them?"... well would you let your children whatch pronos with you? I don't understand
please help me

p.s. plz, no rude comments... I will report abuse if you do

Answer 1

i noticed no one mentioned beening insucure, i know exactly what you mean

when someone is insure the man has to realise that they have to make a extra effort to make the person that they love feel more secure, i wont be suprised if you was bullied as a kid or something happened to you that really knocked your confidence.
see with me when i find my boyfriend has watched porn on the internet even a little clip,i think am i not doing something right so he has to get his kicks from watching someone else doing it.
but i have also watched porno clips but when i watch it i think about my boyfriend doing that to me
so possibley your husband thinks the same when he's watchin it.
plus they can pick up tips on how to please you more.
because come one alot a men dont know there way around a womans body and some men are afraid to ask because of there male ego.
the only thing that gets me is when i suggest watching a porno toghther he says no, but i put that down to him being embarrased to watch one with me or its just something he would rather watch on his own but then the insecurity kicks in and they you ask ya self why would he rather want to watch it on his own

its all down to how ya feel about ya self try going to some classes for self comfidence. or when his out try watching one and while your watching it think about why they make you feel bad
because at the end of the day there just woman who like taking there clothes of and sleeping with diffrent men to make a movie
but i think with you its not what there doing it more of what there bodys look like and if there really pretty. but if that is the case try doing diffrent things with your self eg hair get ya nails done what ever cheers you up. hope this has helped and it wasnt suppost to be this long sorry lol

Answer 2

It is a turn-on for many people.

If the couple is mature enough to realize that they are actors and that it is not real little harm is done.

The question is not would you let your children watch it. You are stretching there, but when your children get married would you have a problem if they enjoyed adult movies as a couple?

This is just about what is comfortable with sexuality between a couple, don't put more into it. If you don't like them, you just don't. Next time he starts watching a porno try taking off your cloths and inviting him to the bedroom, bet you he drops the porno and goes after you. :)

Answer 3

Sex is very different between men and women. To Women it is the now, the moment and their partner. To men it is fantasy, the now quite often is a replayed fantasy in his mind.
This is a carry over from adolesence. The little boy still in him.
So is reading those magazines and watching those movies.
what many of these men do not realize is that it is time to grow up and make now the fantasy.
I am afraid your man is a bit selfish and controlling and needs to grow up. You need a change in your relationship. If he respected you he would not make the "W" comment. You are going to need to play mother and sit him down and give him some guidelines. You are going to have to play loving wife and sit him down and create a new and different line communication.
He is going to have to understand that marriage is about equality and sharing. That marriage is about respect and you will tolerate nothing less. And finaslly that he can grow up and that sexually you can share and live out each others fantasies, within reason.

Good luck

Remember you first have to respect and show you respect yourself and that you expect others to respect you and also you have to show others the same respect that you expect, nothing less.

Answer 4

He wants his perfect wife, but he has fantasies as all men do. He obviously puts you on a pedestal, above all other women. Men are visual, I am too learning this more and more. It can be confusing. They don't like it if you show cleavage or your skirt is too short but yet the women they fantasize about are just those types of women. Its like being on a rollarcoaster from hell! My advice is to watch it with him, or go up and turn off the tv, grab him by the hand and tell him theres no time for TV tonight, and give him your naughty side. Give him something to go to bed for, kick it up a notch

Answer 5

Men are much more visual then woman. Forget what the christian right says, just because I watch porn does not mean I love my wife any less and I would never ever ever think about cheating. Where I believe woman are much more about the sensual side of relationships. Case in point, why do married or in a relaitonship women like to go out with friends and get the "attention" or flirt with other men a lot more than married men like to go out a talk to other women. (Well at least in the case of me and my friends.) It does not mean my wife wants to cheat on me, she just likes to get attention and could care less about a guys physical appearance the same way I could care less about getting attention when I go out but I get my jollies from look at other things physical. I wouldn't worry about your man so much unless he starts to watch it in excess and begins ignoring you.

Answer 6

Calm down! I love it when he watches porn, if I am not in the mood. It is better then him cheating! What does it matter, he will never meet these women. I even helped him pick some porn out. Now if he chose porn over sex with you then that is a problem, but other then that, what is the problem here? And you have to just trust him. My husband is deployed for a year and I still trust him. Soldiers have sex out there all the time. And he trusts me being here. Just have trust, and stop worrying about the porn.

Answer 7

First, why would you be threatened by women in a video? He's with you, not them. He doesn't want you behaving like them because he married a woman with class. Porno women are not classy. If he wanted a woman like that, he would have married one. But, there is nothing wrong with a man wanting to watch porno. Men are visual creatures. Just like women have "toys," men have porn.

Answer 8

I think most men (and some women) enjoy pornography. It's not because you're not good enough or anything to do with you. Pornography is all about fantasies. We all have sexual fantasies that, if the opportunity rose to act on them, would scare the you-know-what out of us. Watching them being acted out by other people is a safe, non-threatening way to feel like you're living them.

Instead of arguing about it, you should try enjoying it with him sometime. (There are videos that are aimed at a female audience.) Ask your husband about his fantasies and be willing to try to indulge the not-so-scary ones.

Answer 9

Most guys watch porn, the vast majority. A guy who never watches porn is very very rare, and probably something wrong with him, lol.

Porn to guys is like love stories to women(chick flicks). Guys don't really understand or enjoy chick flicks, but we go with you and sit through them, in hopes that you'll feel like getting busy (making love) afterwards. I figure it's probably the same way with women and porn in most cases.

A similar scenario would be.... Just becuse I like to go to the park and shoot some hoops, doesn't mean I wouldn't like to watch the Lakers play... Your question is kind of like, "Why would a guy want to watch the Lakers play, when he can go to the park and play whenever he wants?"

Answer 10

when my kids become 18 they cann watch what ever they want..now as for your husband you shoulda know his habit hopefully is not a problem but and occational view of a porn is not bad its just fantasing some people do it online other day dreaming he perfers watching porn dont think that it is he dont love u any less and trust me when boys go out usually is to watch porn drink beer and come back home happy so after he watches it im pretty sure he makes u happy if not then i would be alil concern im pretty sure if not u but women too fantasize about men not there husband in private so its nothing wrong