I want a guy.
I haven't seen him in years yet have found myself reminiscing more and more on his sheer perfection, to the point that I now do it all day -- especially when I listen to music.
I don't know where in the world he is right now.
I don't know if he's gay or bi (but there's a good chance).
I don't feel good looking enough to consider myself his equal, in fact, I think it would be ridiculous for me to be with him because I elevate him to a status so high above me. His sexiness has damaged me because I feel worthless in comparison.
It wouldn't be fair for me to start a relationship with anyone else in my current state. (I'm closeted BTW.)
I'm not looking for advice; I don't want to get over him -- not this year anyway. I'm insane! I just want to know who's been there.
"They can never wrong this right." - The Killers
One thing I know: you can't think about someone this much without the universe bringing them into your life sooner or later. Just a glimpse will be woot.
2007-02-01 02:36:21 · 8 answers · asked by booyaoi 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
For the record: I'm sure I do have BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder - people who see themselves uglier than they are). It's what keeps me in the closet.
2007-02-01 03:22:02 · update #1
Been there...actually still there.
2007-02-01 02:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by david f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, I've been here. It's scary, because you don't want to feel this way, but at the same time, you never want to not feel this way.
It hurts, unyieldingly. You feel as though you're being (falsely) healed every time you think about them. You imagine yourself in the most commonplace situations with them, and the most intimate. You think about being with them, breathing with them, souls joining, becoming one with them. It stops you from breathing. You think you'd gladly stop breathing for them. All you're really doing is stopping yourself from being available to actual prospects that may come along while you're off daydreaming about this mystery boy.
Yes, I know what its like to be here, just be careful. You'll find if you let it devour you too much, you could lose good, close friends and become depressed and possibly become suicidal.
I wished so long that something I did or said would somehow bring me closer to *him*. I realize now, 2 years later, what a waste of time it all really was, and despite friends support and attempts to persuade me to move on, its something I had to go through... its something YOU have to go through. You'll be stronger and better for it. I know I am.
You also should keep in mind, (not to oppress religion upon you, but its a good philosophy I like to hold) sometimes, in the long run, you'll thank God for unanswered prayers.
Good luck, and if you need anything, don't hesitate to email or contact me, should you need to talk or work things out.
- Matt
2007-02-01 10:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by mattyrytrow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who has been on the other end of someone's obsession it's one of the worst scary feelings to have to think I can't go there I can't go out alone I cant do that...i can't .... because someone has decided that they must know you every move and everything about you.
Your main problem is you have major insecurity issues that need tackling then you wouldnt have to get over that person as you would realise that the way you are thinking is definitely not rational. That and be true to yourself and family and come out the closet they probably know anyhow.
Again, you have major insecurity issues that need addressing real soon
2007-02-01 11:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by angelrose0105 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, and left it in the past.
In my case, the universe acted on my behalf about 5 years later.
Best to leave it alone. Really. Disappointment lies down that road.
BTW, you are not a stalker, but you are obsessed. Time will help, but if not, Intellus might (then you can be a proper stalker).
2007-02-01 13:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by tombollocks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have 'wanted' someone bad a couple of times, but I have to honest and tell you that you sound a little too stalker like. You may want to back off a bit. That doesn't mean forget but seriously just cool your jets.
2007-02-01 10:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do i mean i b think about this girl all the time n i havent met her we just smile everytime we pass each other. but hopefully today i will say hey and get some name. But i dont think she here today...=( i do think of her while music think of her 24/7!! its sad i guess its driving me crazy
2007-02-01 10:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by boricua4756 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tune in to Barbra and Celine. TELL HIM, bet you gonna get your answer....good luck!
2007-02-01 12:31:49 · answer #7 · answered by javo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
-- Eleanor Roosevelt
2007-02-01 11:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋