In and out of love or is it lust?

Question

First and formost i would like to thank every one for answering all of questions with respectful and smart answers but let just see how u handle this one!

I met back up with my babymother yesterday and i haven't seen her in a long time. She callls me out the blue and comes to my house. We get to talking and one thing leading to another we had sex. Now i'm catching feelings again but in the back of mind all of her messed up ways keeps coming back in my head. She cheated on me, was sleeping with dudes while i was with her, got her ex girl name tattooed on her, etc. But now she's coming back to me telling me how much she changed and how much she loves me and how much she's sorry for the things she did. Should I belieave her and make it work or should i tell her to keep it smokin, baby!

Answer 1

I believe in giving everyone a second chance, but it sounds like she's had a third and fourth too. Be careful, people rarely change.

Answer 2

You can never really tell some one else what to do in these situations..this is a long poem and I modified it, but its good and worth the read
If a woman wants you, nothing can keep her away.
If she doesn't want you, nothing can make her stay.
Stop making excuses for a woman and her behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a woman before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the woman was not treating you as you deserve
Then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then she probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself
a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Always have your own set of friends separate from hers.
Maintain boundaries in how a woman treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a woman know everything. She will use it against you later.
You cannot change a woman's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make her feel she is more important than you are...even if she has
more education or in a better job. Do not make her into a quasi-god.
! She is a woman, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a woman define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's woman.
Oh Lord! If s he cheated with you, she'll cheat on you.
A woman will only treat you the way you ALLOW her to treat you.
All women are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about
Baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists
of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if she doesn't turn out to be Mrs. Right.
Make her miss you sometimes...when a woman always know where you are, and your always readily available to her- she takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a woman who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep her in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another

Answer 3

How desperate are you to recapture what you had? How much do you trust her?

Answer these for yourself and either take her back (with the possibility that you'll get hurt again) or steer clear.