I love my girlfriend to death and we have been together for a while. We live together and I can't take cleaning up anymore!!! My girlfriend is unorganized and leaves her things all over the place. I constantly have to remind her to pick up her belongings and we argue about this issue sometimes. Since we have been together i find that I am starting to have an obsession with things being neat and in order. I love my girlfriend but I don't want the maintenance of our house to be solely my responsibility. Can we work this out? What should i do?!?!?! Please help me!
2007-02-01 01:40:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Some people are just like that. And trying to change people can be VERY difficult. And not even Tom Cruise (Mission Impossible) can get a woman to change.
You could try sharing responsibilities. She is obviously a messy person, but maybe there are things that she could do around the house. This may relieve you of doing so much. If you really want her to stop being messy, I doubt it can be done. But if you really love her, maybe you can find a way around it.
P.S. Is there anything that really drives her crazy? You could tell her that if she stops being messy, you will stop (fill in the blank).
2007-02-01 03:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married one, probably the worlds worst! I read once that there will be 10 things about a person that you do not like. The question is, can you live with the imperfection? My husband's good qualities make it worth the extra work on my part. If he were a perfectionist, he most likely would not have his easy going attitude and possibly be on my back for my flaws. He's a keeper even if he leaves peanut shells all over the carpet and thinks nothing of it. Wish I could relax & be just little more like him.
2007-02-01 01:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't live with a slob, but my husband is always on my case about the stack of papers I leave in certain areas around the house. We've argued about it. We talked aobut it and thought the best way to solve the problem is to find a little corner out of the way to put all my crap. We also have applied a rule that community areas are to be clear of all clutter and debris. I have my little corner of crap and he has his. Everyone is happy. Hope this works out.
2007-02-01 01:53:44 · answer #3 · answered by zumi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i myself am not so tidy my husband very obsessed too he makes lists!!and complains alot,but i work and do just about everthing cept lawn work.i tell him if it bothers him to do it himself.my house is lived in not dirty.make a list and talk about it ,cant get worse.love concures all we got married after we lived together for years!!good luck
2007-02-01 01:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by lil pit cat 71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should try and talk to her about that and see what she says tell her that you are getting mad about something that she is doing tell her to pick things up and not have them every were and see what she says
2007-02-01 02:00:33 · answer #5 · answered by alisha bessette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋