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Question

so i am 25 my fiance 35 we have 4 kids 2 dogs and 1 cat both work full time and almost always have one kid inbetween us at night i always want sex him sometimes i like it wild rough and crazy him not so much.. so what can i do or not do to get him a little more excited in bed when we get the chance, ive offered other women with us he sd no i would get too jealous afterwards i dont know what to do please help!!!

let me just add he is a very UNromantic person and does not care for romance on the nights the kids arent home he calls it an early night and catches up on sleep we cant afford a hotel room really ever and i am to the point that i have seriously considered cheating on him i love him and want it to work but i need satsifaction in the bedroom too PLEASE HELP HELP HELP

Answer 1

Forget the adding another person to the bed, bad, bad idea all around. That statement screams of desperation and from what you have said is that you are getting desperate. Next time you do not have any children, you need to tell him what you are going through and how you want to pick up the pace some. Let him know that you love him and want to stay with him, but dang, you are just entering your prime years and need a man that can meet your needs as well. You are not married and if you do not get this resolved soon, you need to really re-think saying I do if you are already thinking of cheating. Don't cheat, you would be better off telling him good bye and looking for someone that you can love with your heart and body...

Answer 2

you have to make the kids atay in another room, if you husband decide to call the night earlier, the you catch him on bed, wear some really little thong and matching bra and star touching him or touching yourself a hand job ar a bj will get the party stared, and just go crazy from there talk very dirty and tell him how you want him to fack you, i have never know of any MAN the have turn off and offer like that before, if this don't work then you need to go get profetional help.DON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT CHEATING that is the last thing the you want in your life.

Answer 3

I've got the same issue. Me 42, wife 29. Two young kids... always in the way. Maybe the problem is he's self conscious about getting crazy with the kids in the house. If possible, find a way for the kids to be out of the home with a relative or sitter, so you have full run of the house, and make it a kinky date night.

Answer 4

Hi Angela, First of all every man fantasy is not to have a threesome especially with the one that he's about to get married to, thats str8 up nasty. Your man may not be a freak, he may have a lot thats is going on with him internally and he may be trying to figure it out. I mean between 4 kids and its the two of you that are working, I'd say he has his work cut out for him, maybe he has a stressful job. There could be a lot of factors other than his age which causes him not to want to have sex. Don't feel like he's not attracted to you, I feel that he is, but with 4 kids in the house he may not feel right with 4 pair of ears listening. My suggestion for you is, to go to the nearest bookstore, Books a million or Barnes & Noble, pick up a book entitled 365 nights of great sex. That should do the trick.

Answer 5

You've taken "The Heart" out of your Love for him. Bring it back to where it's suppose to be. The Heart! You know, The Old Ticker? The thing that went crazy, when you met him? The thing that keeps you alive? It needs to be satisfied. Romance should start there. Everyting good, flows from it.

Answer 6

Until the evil and malevolent US gov't incorporated MDMA (a.k.a. Ecstasy) into it's War on Americans (who use drugs that aren't manufactured by the multi-billion dollar pharmaceutical giants who over-charge for their products and funnel HUGE sums into the coffers of the Republican and Democrat National Committees and their respective candidates' political campaigns), MDMA was legal and prescribed by psychiatrists and sex-therapists as an aid to distressed relationships such as you describe. Unfortunately, because of US policy, it is easier for kids to get this (and other drugs) at school or from their friends than for adults to get it from their doctor which, of course, prompts the gov't to further strip us of our once-sacred Constitutional liberty and cut funding for education in order to build more prisons, etc. Ahh. life in the ``Good Ol' USA!'' ... ``Land of the Free?'' Yeah, RIGHT!

It's hard to find good, pure MDMA but if you can and he'd be willing to ingest some it would certainly help things move in the right direction in the bedroom--absent the kid/s, of course.

Answer 7

this will get him in hte mood take a pair of old jeans and cut a slit across the *** bottom put on a g string pantie take a shirt cut it just below the breast line and have no bra on dance around the room bending over to reveal your *** and raise your arm to show your perky **** if that fails play with your self while he watchs use a dildo if own one in not use any item that can be inserted he will be all over you i guarantee it write me if it does not work i have more ideas

Answer 8

what you might wont to do is sex him up and i mean though out the week kids or no kids tease him show him some sex underwear and kiss him like you kiss him in bed. and after a week you see him wont you like crazy. Good luck

Answer 9

Talk about it in an animated fashion, to get him thinking positive thoughts, Get rid of the kids, dog and cat!!! buy some boustiers and RAW DOG IT!!!!! Or just come to my house!!!

Answer 10

I hate to break it to you, but you are in the situation of mismatched sex drive/ sex attitude. There is a support group for people in this predicament. SWAGE We are people who understand the frustration, the heartbreak... the total sense of loss.