I’m 19 years old and bi. I have several lesbian friends and they just invite me to have some threesome FFF altogether tonight…. I love the idea! I always fantasize about this and no problem with it ;) . The last time I go all the way with all female was at their lesbian bachelorette party. We all went wild all night long, but that was for another story, LOL!!
The real issue here is my bf… should I tell him about this? Should I ask his permission before going all the way? I’ve told him in the beginning of our relationship that I’m bi and he’s cool about that. I love him and he loves me and trusts me with his heart and I have no intention to betray him here…. In short, should I turn down my friends’ offer? Why?
2007-02-01 01:37:03 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First I'll tell you what I think you should do, and then I'll tell you why: you should tell him about the offer and ask what he thinks.
Here's why: as obvious as it may be, different men are different. Some men will freak out at the very thought of it. They'll be cool with the concept that you're bi, but when the rubber hits the road and you're actually being hit on by other women, they'll start to feel like they have to compete with twice as many people for your attention. Other guys will think it's an awesome idea and buy you something lacy to wear when you go. Other guys still won't be bothered by the fact that you've got the invitation, but they won't want you to go and will consider it cheating. Whatever his attitude, you want to know sooner rather than later and you want to know how to act to have the strongest relationship possible. If he's going to freak out just because other women like you, you'll want to know now and let it go. If he's going to be okay with you going, then by all means, go. If he'd rather you didn't, then by all means, don't.
2007-02-05 03:23:58 · answer #1 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is by definition "personal gain through deceit". If you see anyone behind his back, male or female, you are technically "cheating". In my opinion, if he gives you his permission than it is not cheating, it is sharing. Big difference. One involves potential emotional hurt, the other a hot fantasy between the two of you. But I' sure what he had in mind when he found out you are bi is that he'd be part of it, not just you alone.
2007-02-01 04:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating if you're not stepping outside of the boundaries set with your boyfriend. If you don't know if sleeping with other women crosses that line, then you need to have a talk with him first. He may be ok with you seeking occasional female companionship, or he may want a monogamous relationship. That's a talk you'll have to have with him first before you come even close to "crossing the line."
2007-02-01 04:20:47 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
who cares the way you found out, that's no longer the factor. the factor is that he cheated,has probably cheated till now and could prob do it lower back sooner or later so so some distance as the way you found out who cares the wear and tear is finished, tell him you observed a psychic or you have heard from a pal and understand he did it. in case you recognize for particular then his denials would be much greater pathetic,once you do confront him i'm hoping you bypass away.
2016-11-23 20:02:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since when did bisexuality give you a free rein to sleep with another person (irrespective of gender) without your partner's knowledge?
How would this be different from having an MMF session without your boyfriend (LOL! not the action per se but the idea of sleeping with another)?
He's the only one with who you should be sleeping (you know it) - unless you have previously discussed it and have agreed on some sort of open relationship.
How would you feel if he went off and slept with two women?
2007-02-01 01:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt tell him if I were you go a head and have the threesome you will enjoy the experience but I would keep it to yourself, or ask yourself a question, how would he react ? would he feel betrayed ? if he knew.... or just carry on as normal not knowing about it..... me personally I would jump at the chance.
Good luck
2007-02-01 01:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by The Exorcist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask him first. If you don't then it's as if you are trying to hide. If it were my gf or wife asking I would ask if I could come along and watch. Maybe "hang out" in the corner with myself or something. Again definitely make him aware of it before hand.
2007-02-06 05:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by major b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you should go!!..tell your bf whats up...if he is a real man he will have no problem going wit yo homegirls!...Im straight and my gf is bi...she does that kinda stuff all the time...when I've been really good she'll let me come too...of course this means takin out the trash w/o being asked, flowers and candy, all of that good stuff!! lol
2007-02-04 21:14:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have to say tell him. just remember that love is unconditional in every seance of the word. who knows you just might find out something new about each other. everyone has secrets though so be prepared.
peace love form the eastside.
2007-02-06 13:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by dorrianjr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should turn down the offer,because you love your guy and will lose his trust.
2007-02-01 01:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by *charmer* 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋