I haven't been able to feel comfortable during sex becuase I feel like the "rocking" and rythmic motion is bouncing the baby all around. And the last time we tried to have sex, it felt extremely tight and hurt. I couldn't stay wet and it really upset me. He wasn't upset because we found other ways to complete everything, but it makes me feel bad. I get scared sex is going to hurt the baby somehow. I'm 17 weeks pregnant...any advice?
2007-02-01 00:52:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
UNLESS YOUR DOCTOR HAS SAID SOMETHING SEX IS FINE!! YOU WILL NOT HARM THE BABY..BUT IF IT IS PAINFUL FOR YOU THAN FINE OTHER WAYS FOR YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND TO STAY CLOSE...
2007-02-01 01:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by jewel64052 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fear of hurting the baby is causing you the lack of wetness and to be tight. Lack of lubrication and tightness causes the pain. It's a good thing you notice the correlation between the two for later on. The more fear you have during labor and birth, the more pain you will feel. When we are scared, our muscles retract and tighten.... this causes pain. We are also less able to work with our body and can cause it damage when we tense all our muscles for a long period of time. (Try tensing your hands and face for a minute or so. Then relax. Feels much better when you relax those muscles!) You are past the point of a miscarriage. Unless your water is broken or you have premature labor, sex is perfectly safe during pregnancy. Your husband has prostaglandins in his semen that help ripen the cervix. Don't worry, it won't make you go into labor if you're not ready to be. Sex during the last trimester is beneficial for this very reason. Plus, it's a great way to relax and enjoy each other before the baby arrives. Also, you may notice the baby gets "rocked to sleep" during your activities. Babies are used to a lot of movement...in every activity. Keep this in mind when the baby is born. When baby is fussy, he/she may just need movement to calm down. (Walking around with baby in a sling does wonders!) Check out the book: Birthing From Within for more info about the fear=pain and what to do about it.
2007-02-01 01:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by Mother- Wife- Friend- Doula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am 30 weeks pregnant and I had sex all during my pregnancy. The tightness is because your body is changing getting ready for the birth of your baby. Try going online to find more comfortable positions and try some ky gel for the dry feeling. Trust me when you get about 28 weeks that is all you are going to think about is having sex because that is when the blood rushes to your vagina and you are arouse all the time. Your baby is fine and besides the rocking motion help her/him sleep.
2007-02-01 01:03:53 · answer #3 · answered by karameldiamond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex during pregnancy is normally fine, especially so early in the pregnancy. I was prego with twins and was having some issues.... around 6 months the Dr suggested we didn't have sex. But, that's not the norm. Most people are fine.
2016-05-24 01:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're sure that sex during pregnancy doesn't cause miscarriage because couples have had sex during pregnancy for 100s and 1,000s of years without any problem!!
If you don't feel like it, don't do it, but you can't hurt the baby with normal sex. It may even be beneificial as it gets your blood pumping and sends 'happy hormones' racing around your body and the baby's too!!
2007-02-01 01:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were scared that it was going to hurt the baby too, but the doctor said that it wouldnt just as long as I was comfortable. Once I started getting bigger it was more difficult to find a position that I was comfortable in, but it is safe to have sex through your whole pregnancy. It hurt me a couple times too when I was pregnant, if youre not comfortable and it dont feel right then dont do it. Congratulations
2007-02-01 00:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
a baby is so safe inside your womb that a little prodding now and again isn't gonna cause a miscarriage .i had great sex with all my eight pregnancy and some amazing orgasms so you don't know what your missing.i had a miscarriage at twelve weeks with my second pregnancy and that was because baby was deformed so it was natures way .it gets a little uncomfortable so just change positions.as i tell you now your not gonna be in the mood when baby comes and you tired .make the most of it and good luck
2007-02-01 01:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by diane o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex during most pregnancies is completely safe. The uterus and amniotic fluid protect baby very well.
Only women who have a history of miscarriage or are considered high risk AND have been told not to have sex by their care giver are usually the ones who have to refrain.
But of course, it your personal decision. Talk to your partner about how you feel and maybe the two of you can come up with more creative and "gentle" ways to be together.
2007-02-01 01:05:25 · answer #8 · answered by mlcacek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a good question, and you arent the only one who has asked or been worried about that. as long as you are having a good pregnancy with no problems there is no proof that sex causes any harm to baby. if you are like me and have a stitch in your cervix sex is a big no no. but yea as long as everything is fine, sex is fine. talk to your doctor about this kind of thing they could really help and give you some great advice.
2007-02-01 01:03:26 · answer #9 · answered by puppy love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need not worry unless your doctor explicitly mentions not to have sex you are on the safe side. It is okay to feel uncomfortable but do not pressure yourself. All i can advice is to change poistion maybe side ways and finally it depends on what makes you most comfortable. Go for the trial and error technique until you settle on a comfortable poistition.
2007-02-01 01:57:24 · answer #10 · answered by samah a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally it should be OK, but if you're really worried and uncomfortable use the other means for the next few months.
After you're fourth months is done, it will not hurt the baby.
You get dry because you're afraid and when your afraid there is no enjoyment. We had to stop with my third one after 4 months because of sciatica nerve pain. Thank God my husband is an understanding guy, but like you said there are different means to get satisfaction.
Good Luck and Congratulation.
2007-02-01 01:00:36 · answer #11 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋