We have been off and on at swingers clubs..
2007-02-01 00:35:07 · 29 answers · asked by texlatina1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As far as you both feel comfortable with. My husband and I have been married 20 yrs and we enjoy an "alternate" lifestyle. Have fun and enjoy and be safe!!
2007-02-01 00:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by wild_orchid_tx36 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Go as far as what you and your husband are comfortable with. As long as you keep in mind that your relationship is the most important, and either of you has the right and the ability to veto any activity, then you'll be okay.
Some of the answers you are getting here along the lines of "it'll ruin your marriage" and "what if they find someone better" are from those that are speaking from the point of view of "since I live this way everyone should" and have no real experience in the type of relationship you have with your husband. And based on personal insecurities, biases, fears, and jealousy, never will have that open and honest a relationship with anyone.
For some really good, objective and open information, please check-out The Swingers Board. There are always hundreds of discussions going on in the forums about similar subjects as this.
2007-02-01 17:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's all well and good if you enjoy the same type of sex life. But the only thing that keeps swingers together as a lasting couple is if both are completly comfortable with sharing their partners. Sometimes, some couples find it okay at first....but it only takes a little doubt or uneasiness to ruin the deal. In turn, it would break up a marriage either literally or emotionally.
It has nothing to do with trust. People want different things and sometimes those wants change.
Hope I did okay with answering this!
2007-02-01 08:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
one of the few times a question has been asked instead of rules given because the answer is simple.
(Had a friend once who's boyfriend got off seeing her sleeping with other women and she was a very beautiful girl who had a little boy) You know why and whom she left her boyfriend for? She wanted a clean start and last I heard was still with, the father of her little boy who believed in a one on one relationship.
After the thrill is gone what do you do?
Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?
That is the question asked is in Proverbs 6:27 and it applies to the free lifestyle. Me myself I find the sin part is easy but, the paying for it really sucks.
2007-02-01 08:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Eventually the swinger thing is going to hurt your relationship. Wild side is nice, but keep it in the marriage.
2007-02-01 08:38:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Going down this path takes great caution and control. It is easy to get absorbed into the moment until it is controlling you and not the other way around. Proceed only if you are willing to face the dangers. Many unsurfaced emotions lie in these pursuits.
2007-02-01 08:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by Danna 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wish I could get my wife to go with me to a swingers club. Every husbands fantasy. If you can handle it, go for it.
2007-02-01 08:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
until one of you wants to stop just you asking how far makes me think maybe you are not sure about this situation or he may not love it as much as you are saying i personally have no problem with it i would love for my husband to want to swing i want to and have in the past but id say for you question why you are even asking
2007-02-01 09:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by angela C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do y'all have to go to the club to get on the swing! Dah
2007-02-01 09:13:24 · answer #9 · answered by mrsdg01 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simple...As far as YOU feel comfortable with.
I hope that you can both continue to swing without feeling, jealous, inadequate, unsatisfied or suspicious.
2007-02-01 08:40:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋