My son and his girlfriend are having an unplanned baby and they are very young and fight about everything to the point that they cant live together. Will having a baby possibly change them into parents that can put their differences aside for the child or will they just continue to fight?
2007-02-01 00:09:51 · 9 answers · asked by schwalmy 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Everybody fights that's normal but, if there fighting too much there probably are not the best for each other. They should explore consoling or even trying to raise the child apart. I greatly doubt they'll change because the baby is born unless the arguments are because she's pregnant. It' s no point and trying to stay together for the baby because it'll drive them further apart to the point were they won't be able to raise the baby together or separated. I hope it doesn't come to that though. Good-luck!!
2007-02-01 00:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not, but you can always hope. My cousin was young when she got pregnant. It was unplanned, and same situation, her and the father to be fought all the time. They ended up breaking up, after long consideration, whether to keep the baby or not, she decided to keep it and move on with her life and the baby, away from him. Just before baby came they got back together, and have been off and on for 5 years now, and its finally come to an end, she has finally decided to move on with her life and give him rights as a father, but no relationship between the two. I guess breaking up and getting back together over 20 times was finally clicking in to them that they could not be together. She never matured, he did but she is still the same, but she is a great mom, and thats where she matured. Good luck, just be a great grandmother and help them as much as you can.
2007-02-01 08:36:32 · answer #2 · answered by Proud Mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this really depends. More than likely it might make it worse. Just because they will fight over who does what and what the baby needs. I would suggest them going to a young parents group, or a councelor befor they attempt raising a child together. I am a single young mother, and am almost glad that I am doing it on my own, I'm afriad it would be hard with a young man, as they also mature slower then woman.
2007-02-01 08:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by Hilly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a similar situation with my daughter, the baby is a blessing but by her having the baby it did not change her situation, her and her boyfriend were always fighting before they had my grandson and it has continued, they have since broken up and the baby is just being used as a pawn. I hope that it works out for the best for your sons relationship.
2007-02-01 08:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by n2tapas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends how young they are i think
if you have a child young then it makes you mature faster as soon as that baby is in the world then they will think differently about eachother i cant really say that they will remain together or if they will split however the responsibility will definately make your son grow up and see what they have done making them stronger or maybe bringing things to a head and giving them both closure. i dont think they will fight because they will have somebody elese to think about and the repucussions that their actions will have on their child, they will develop a concscionce and they will think about their actions other than just rowing.
good luck to you and your son, his partner and baby
2007-02-01 08:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by essexbird 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on their maturity level. At least they realize that they cannot live together. Fighting during pregnacy is bad for the baby Mom should avoid all stress. If they cannot be together help them realize that they must be there for the baby if they can't be there for each other.
2007-02-01 08:18:04 · answer #6 · answered by D J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are they will continue to fight. It's hard when your young, as you know, to be overwhlemed with such a responsibility. Have you tried talking to them? Maybe more in a support way....You never know maybe they will feel better once they see the beautiful baby.
2007-02-01 08:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is going to depend on them. How old are they? HOpefully they can put their differences aside and raise this baby. Good luck and Congrats!
2007-02-01 08:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is actually a phenomenon that occurs when a couple has a new baby to take care of that makes them feel a false sense of euphoria in the relationship. . it goes away. . trust me, I know!
2007-02-01 14:07:54 · answer #9 · answered by az_showers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋