.... A close friend of mine is really "kikay/girly" and al of my class mates don't like her. What will I do??? Stick with her even if all of my classmates would hate me or go with the crowd and loose her friendship??... it Sounds Easy But in REality it's very HArd..
2007-02-01 00:04:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have been in that very situation several times; in elementary school, elementary, jr. high, high school and in adulthood. All except one time I chose the one friend that no one liked. Almost always did they all end up being friends...unfortunately, they always turned against me...and though it hurt...and still does...I have no regrets (except for the time I abandoned the lonely friend) because I did the right thing. I can be proud of what kind of person I was and that feeling is everlasting. When I dissed the friend for the crowd I regret it to this day, that feeling is everlasting too.
What if you were the "odd" one and someone else was asking this question about you?
As long as you choose to be part of society you will be plagued with the dilemmas of peer pressure. What you need to ask yourself is what kind of person do you want to become. Do you want to live a life in the shadow of what "others" may think of you? Here is some to think about. "You" have to be with "you" all the time. "You" can only be sure of what "you" think or feel. If "you" are not "you" then how will you ever know if anyone likes "you" or they just like that "you" do what ever they want.
I've always been myself and no one else and its served me well. I always try to defend the victims of peer pressure and in the end deep down inside those pressuring others are just as lost as you are. People feed on hate, fear and misery it makes them feel superior. But no one is.
If you want to be friends with this person be friends with them. If the crowd dis likes you then were they really your friend?
I know its hard so just be nice to everyone, be yourself and build yourself up without it being at the expense of someone else.
2007-02-01 00:37:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reality isn't hard...It's called growing up.
If you like this person you shouldn't care what others think.
True friendship can last throughout the tough times. A true friend will stand by you no matter what.
If you walk away from this person just because other ppl don't like her ........well, then you were never a very good friend at all.
Peer Pressure??????? NOPE don't use that as an excuse, You have a mind of your own....USE IT.
2007-02-01 08:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truely her friend then you will stand by her through thick & thin.A true friend will alway's be there for you everyone else comes & goes in your life.If this girl is truely yoyr friend then she will still be in your life 10yrs from now and all these other classmates will be gone.So you need to ask yourself are you a true friend or not.If you are you will put up with the pressure for now which will eventually go away or you are not a true friend and you lose her now and you still lose all these other classmates later too..
2007-02-01 08:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is really your friend, I suggest that you stay by her side 'cause if nobody wants to be her friend then you will see that she will be alone and no one will be there for her. To solve the problem you may ask what your classmates don't like about her and try to talk with your friend about the things you got but definitely try not to hurt her. Then tell those who hate your friend that she is not what they think or when they get to know her they won't hate her like that.
2007-02-01 09:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by prettylovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say stay her friend. You shouldnt just dump her cause other ppl dont like her. I have been in the same position. I have a friend and lets just say she is not the coolest person ever. Well, alot of ppl dont like her and say she is so weird. But i did not just dump her because of that she is my friend and i like her for who she is and i dont care what other pplz think. So just think of it this way, if u fell would those other ppl in ur class wanna pick you up? I doubt it but i bet that one girl would! Well i hope ive helped!!!
2007-02-01 08:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by smart brunette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what you want to do. Is this person your friend, or are you just saying that she is your friend.
Never go with the crowd because everyone is. you will never find out who you are if you do what other people are doign just because they are doing it. Be her friend because you want to be her friend. don't eb her friend because "YOU" don't want to be her friend.
If your classmates don't want to be your friend because you are friends with her, then they weren't your friends from the beginning. If they make you lose a friend once, what's to say they won't do it again?
2007-02-01 08:08:51 · answer #6 · answered by Army Gal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if shes your friend stand by her side just try to talk to her if she has a bad rep or is doing the wrong things if she don't listen put your foot down.
2007-02-01 08:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by Denny O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are close and true friends, its your duty to stick to your friend.
2007-02-01 08:12:41 · answer #8 · answered by musicinme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋