i ve been settled in uk for 10 years, weve had bussiness there, now we r in crises for some time and my hubby wants to go back to india, i feel very upset as when i was in india with him he used to behave very bad ther coz of his parents, now i feel he is going to be the same there as he has already started behaving badly with me mentioning his parents, since we have decided to shift, i ve talked with him of my feelings but he doesnt bother, ive 2 children and my parents live near me, i dont know if to settle down with my parents and let him go to india alone or go with him and bear the consecuences, plz suggest me as i am very confused, thanx
2007-02-01 00:03:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
leave him--you already see the handwriting on the wall.
If you have the money you could try marital counseling. Sounds like it wouldn't work. But what you would get out of it is the certainty of where you both stand so that you wouldn't be left wondering for years if you did the right thing.
2007-02-01 00:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by center of the universe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT let yourself be bullied into anything. Trust your gut instincts. You are better off not going at all than to go thousands of miles away from your only support which is your parents. Make another attempt to let him see your side of things and your feelings. If he takes none of that into consideration then he truly doesn't love you or deserve you. YOU have the right to be happy and so do your children. Your opinions and feelings DO matter regardless of race, religion or backgrounds! Go and ask your parents to help you get legal advice as far as staying here in the UK (if thats an issue) and for keeping your kids safe.
Best wishes for you....
2007-02-01 02:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by K's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how he behaves except to say badly. I'm taking it to mean somewhat abusive. If that is the case stay with your parents. Why would you go so far away from the people that love and will give you the support you and your children need? Let him go alone, if he loves you he will find a way to stay or come back to the UK to be with you. Good luck
2007-02-01 00:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm there are some solutions that you can choose from.
1- You can come to Maldives to have simple life with birds and white sandy beaches. Here nobody bothers what you do, unless if you don’t disturb any.
2- If you have so many problem with your hubby then tell him to get away from you. But don’t show the kids about the big difference. Some people live friendly after they get divorce.
3- If you have money kick his butt but don’t go to the nigh club after all. Be nice in every move.
2007-02-01 00:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by IQ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your able to and your parent will let you I would settle with my parents, it seems like a life in India is going to be not good for you, you have experienced it before it it was not good so what makes you think it will be this time your husband is already showing signs of how bad it will be. think of yourself and your kids he is not good for you and you deserve to be treated right I am not Indian but do understand the culture is very hard on women but try to be strong there is help in England but I would imagine none in India try to be strong and good luck
2007-02-01 00:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you be okay without your husband. You need to think if you could cope without him with you. You certinly don't deserve a abusing husband whether it be verbal or physical. If you stay you have to be strong for yourself and your kids. If you go then your children will learn that his behaviour is acceptable and will probably be like that with their spouses when they grow up. You have a very big decission to make. Weigh up the good and the bad and decide from there.
What ever you decide I hope your life is good
Take care
2007-02-01 00:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by Donna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 04:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm trying to put myself in your shoes so i can give you the best advise i can.
i would not go with him!
from your own past experience in India and your current husband's reaction towards your negative feeling of moving back there, it only shows that it's not going to be an easy full of candy life for you and your 2 kids. give yourself and your children the best chance of happiness you can master, which would be exactly where you are next to your own family that supports you and loves you unconditionally.
anyways, good luck with whichever decision you think is right...
tell me how it goes :-)
2007-02-01 01:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r better following him back if u still love him,ur children r still small n also take them back together with u.u can leave ur parents in uk if they r staying there happily.maybe ur hubby got home sick after a long lapse of 10 yr staying in uk.
2007-02-01 00:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart say's! It would be silly for you to go back to India with your children with thier father misbehaving around them. I would surely hate if my own mother took me back to a place were she left for a better place, what does that say about the place she moved from? it say's to me that it;s hell & why would my own mother take me to hell. If you want to leave then leave the children with your parents.
2007-02-01 00:19:36 · answer #10 · answered by Darksword 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋