I speak fast as I’m bubbly and a bit hyper active and described as 'loud' I love to be involved and socialise but when I’m around new people they don't speak to me and often leave me out conversation even if I start the conversation off they carry on without me. I started to feel isolated as everyone gets invited out apart from me. I recently decided to speak up about my insecurities and they just made me feel stupid and laughed at me I get a bit tongue tied and cant pronounce things clearly when I’m nervous which makes people laugh at me also. I'm a nice person and always help/stand-up for others but never have anyone stand up for me in return. I don't have any friends as I kind of float around between people and end up on my own (I’m a bit of a loner) Those who call themselves my friends always invite me out to clubs etc but never visit me in return sayn I leave 2 far..........Should I jus me a true loner or jus except if I want friends its always going 2 b 1 sided.
2007-01-31 23:55:43 · 11 answers · asked by brownskinrose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm in the same situation too. I know I'm part of this "group" already, but I kinda float outside of it from person to person. And I even sometimes feel they're mad at me for being who I am.
I know I'm good in math, and they know it too so they ask me to hep them. But when I ask them something, it's a diff thing in general.
You gotta try to be friends with someone apart from the group you stand in or are usually with, who knows, the ones your with maybe not be suited for you. They don't feel comfortable with you maybe cuz they know you are better than them. I know it sounds harsh, but I'm in the exact same position as you. They laugh at me when I tell them how I feel, I even cry. One of them even laughs so loud I feel worse than when I started to cry. It's just plain crazy.
I sometimes feel I have one-sided friendships as well, thinking they're there and you do stuff for them. Helping them, but I advice you to cut back on doing nice stuff for them. You'll notice soon enough how they treat you if you werent as nice and smart as you are. If they still wanna be friends with you after you do that (secretly of course) then its gonna take time to be really close with them cause its not always a "fast friends" sort of thing.
If not, then try and make a friend with someone else. Even if it's just one person. It can make a difference. I'm still struggling with this myself.
I'll help you out anytime. I'll be your friend if you want. ^_^ I promise. Even if ts just on the internet, once you're my friend I won't do what they are doing to you.
2007-02-01 00:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by dark_illumination 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes....that is how I feel. But when I look around....the people I hang around with, the ones who laugh at my jokes, and they feel totally confortable around me, they....they are my friends, my dear friend. Just find someone to even talk to.
Online--is an ok idea. But I don't know if you can call them friends...
Life--there we go!! Much better in person! Just greet yourself to someone in the coffee shop, or at McDonald's! Some of the weirdest places you'd never expect can be holding your future best-friend! Which I know you will have some day! And soon! Just talk! doesn't matter about what! Then say wanna hang out some time? Maybe at the park or local mini golf course. Where-ever! When you find the right friends, you'll know!
2007-02-01 00:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you are a wonderful person as am I. I am finding that I am in the same situation. People are "busy" or they have prior plans for some activity or other and like you, when they speak they require your full attention, but when you speak its trivial knowledge.
I would say cut back on the niceties you do for others. Enjoy their company but do not put too much time on their effort. I know it seems heartless, but it seems the sign of the times. People are only passionate about their own selves. Need to find someone similar in tastes whom you can go with to a diner and spend hours discussing whats on your mind and at the same time get input from them.
Wish you luck.. Let me know what happens.
2007-02-01 00:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by Vlad24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't even read what you said because this problem is more wide spread than you think. People call each other friends but they are not really good friends.
If you have more than two or three during your entire life then you are very fortunate. Real friends are not easy to come by. To have a friend you have to be a friend. It takes time to learn how and even longer to find the one that will respond to your friendship.
Enjoy the casual friends you have and if you are a friend then the friend will come along. Be very careful of those that claim to be friend and are not but will take from you and not return. What is known as fair weather friends.
2007-02-01 00:41:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
these are the reasons you could suffer no friends from
1. not funny
2. look ugly
3. nerd
4. wont shut up
5. annoying
or 6. everyone hates you
if one of those facts about "no having friends" shows on your self then you shouldnt have freinds and you should change your ways
if those dont show on you then maybe nobody likes you get a life
everyone should say if they do then they hate you get rich or something and then give some "friends" money then stop if they get mad there not friends
2007-02-01 06:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by Austin(a.k.a lp #1 fan) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound simple but....
To have a Friend you must be a Friend....
You need to be confident in your heart and not have the need of approval from others to confirm what you know.
all of us think we have lots of friends but in reality there are only 1 - 3 true Friends in a persons life
I think its about a "QUALITY' Friend and not "Quantity"
2007-02-01 00:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by mmmkay_us 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, don't fret. It only means one thing and that is, they feel intimidated when you are around. Meaning they feel envious . Just be yourself, in time you will soon find friends that will accept you the way you are.
2007-02-01 00:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by mared 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're feeling uncertain about yourself and people feel it.
Have more self confidence you have nothing less than anybody else.try to control yourself people will get use to you.My daughter is bubbly too.good luck.
2007-02-01 00:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well good friends are hard to find....so you should just let true friends come to you because when you try to find your own friends then they may turn out to just not be who you thought they were.....so just wait and let them find you
2007-02-01 00:04:35 · answer #9 · answered by iiNnOc3nT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave me some marshmallows on your doorstep tonite and i'll be your friend ! Will i get best answer if i do? I LOVE YOU jelly donuts will work too.
2007-02-01 00:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋