Yesterday my husband and I lost a dear friend. He was killed in a head on collision;it was instant. He was attending nursing school where I work as a secretary. He was on his way earlier that morning to a clinical rotation site. He left behind a wife, and 3 kids and a stepson. He was a wonderful, compassionate, caring,laidback person. Everyone at the college will miss him; all his classmates loved him.
He was 32 years old; within the ages of me and my husband. You just don't think about this happening to someone your age. I just can't believe he's gone. Everytime someone at work asked me if I was okay; I started to cry. My heart goes out to his wife, also an excellent person and dear friend. How do I know to what to say to her ? I want to be able to say something good to her and support her and the family; this is a situation I have never been in before.
With an older person; I say well, they had a long life and got to live it. What do you say about this?
2007-01-31 23:51:02 · 9 answers · asked by JenKat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My friend was an organ donor. Hopefully he will save someone else's life.
2007-02-01 00:13:46 · update #1
I believe that it all happens for a reason as much as it hurts and we grieve, just believe that everything will work out for the best. Support his family and be there for them. I lost my best friend in 8th grade, he was murdered and I just stick close to the family and celebrate his life. Try not to dwell over the loss of his life. Remember and keep alive all the amazing things he did and was doing. Keep alive all the memories that you have of him : )And if you think it could help try to see a counselor. This may help you just have someone to vent to and grieve with.
2007-02-01 00:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by Catrina L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow! I am so sorry! You know that dumb saying, It's all for a good reason? I believe this was an acciedent. My dad's best friend died, it was hard for all of us, but my parents the most. It was hard for him to move on, but he did. How? Well, he thought of him in heaven, just like your friend right there! They're in heaven, in peace, in love. With you in your heart some how, too!
Hmm...try to confort his wife. I am sure it is pretty hard on her! Just talk to her the way you would any day just try and be more.....supportive. Take her out to breakfast and ask her if she is ok (not over and over!) and just be there for her.....a shoulder to cry on. Good luck. Hope he has a good life in Heaven. I will pray for u! Peace!
2007-01-31 23:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are one friend that I would love to have. You have to ask first your wife if she agrees with your idea. There is nothing wrong with it, as long as you can support both your family and your friends family. This will soon pass and thru the years when you have forgotten the pain, you will realize that this situation has made you more mature.
2007-01-31 23:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by mared 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry for your loss.When you lose someone whether thay are old or young it is still very hard.When you lose someone to a tragic accident it is even worse.There is no wrong or right thing to say all you can do is say thing's from your heart.The most important thing that you can do for his wife & family is just to let them know that you are there for them.Death is never easy to deal with and it makes everyone feel odd just be yourself and speak from your heart.I will keep you all in my prayers.
2007-02-01 00:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad to say the least,sometimes there isn't any words you can say to make the pain go away and the grief as long as you are there to confort his wife and kids and to show her that you care will surely be enough..
2007-01-31 23:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by Denny O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry for what has happened. I am younger to u and have never been through this situation. So all I can say is have patience. Be strong yourself then only you can support others.
2007-01-31 23:57:27 · answer #6 · answered by musicinme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a terrible situation and I don't think there is anything you can say that will help...just offer your support and be there if she wants to talk to someone...and stay around...she might need some help in some weeks or months...
2007-01-31 23:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by Tanja S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god bless him & his family!
i'll pray for him & wish the best for his family.
he will be loved for ever!
2007-02-01 00:02:37 · answer #8 · answered by M*K*H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was loved! Oh, that they could say that about everyone!
2007-01-31 23:55:46 · answer #9 · answered by anny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋