its over between me and my gf coz of wat i did time and time again
i love her..i know it but why do i always screw up over and over again?im tired...is it rili over?will i change?will i ever be faithful again?
2007-01-31 23:38:07 · 6 answers · asked by FAIKAH F 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You say you loved her and you treated her like something you'd tread in?
I hope for her sake it is over - and if you should be so lucky as to find love...I hope you learn from your experience.
2007-01-31 23:53:51 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as Dr. Phil says: past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. That doesn't mean you cannot change though. You see you have a problem. That's the first step. The next step is probably making sure you only have *** with people that you really care about. I mean, don't use being single as an excuse to screw up. Get into the habit that *** is only for a serious relationship.
You may want to try and find out why you screw up again and again. Is it lack of self-control? Is it that you feel a need to prove that you are attractive? Is it that when a relationship becomes hard, you feel a need to get 'free' of that? Is it that a serious relationship scares you - so you screw up so you are sure it will fail? There could be all kinds of reasons. And perhaps they don't even matter. You need to change your ways - and doing that will make you see some of the reasons why you did what you did.
2007-02-01 00:03:00 · answer #2 · answered by katinka hesselink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you won't change until you figure out exaclty why you were cheating on her. what kind of girls were you cheating on her with? did they have something she didn't because if they did maybe you should have a girlfriend who's like the girls you cheated with. if not you might have some major commitment issues and want to subconsciensly ruin the relationship you're in because you're afraid of something. you may need to do some major soul searching before engaging in another relationship with anybody else.
i hope you find the answers you're looking for so that you don't end up cheating again.
2007-02-01 01:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are constantly cheatin, yet you know that it is wrong and it ruined your relationship, you should seriously consider counseling. It is BS to say that you just can't help yourself. Until you can gow up and actually make a committment to a woman, you have no right to be in a monogamous relationship. You are knowingly hurting other people.
And for your girlfriend's sake, I hope it is really over. Someone who claims they don't know why they cheated, or they can't help that they cheated will always be a cheater unless they fix their own issues.
2007-02-01 01:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by Beth B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know the drill, happened similarly to me too, its hard work to be faithful, i dont think you should get back with her, she'll probably have real problemsd trusting you again after all that, so you should do some serious thinking along the lines of what you want from a partner then think how you could do the same to them, yno treat ppl how you want to be treated, then with your next girlf, try harder to b good, its hard but you just have to try, its so much nicer than carrying the giult, believe me.
2007-02-01 00:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by blakorkid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're just not into monogamy. have you ever been in an open relationship? do some reading into polyamory, there are lots of people who aren't interested in monogamy - it's not a bad thing, it's just different from what most people consider to be the 'norm'.
2007-02-01 02:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by supposed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋