Can someone please help me?

Question

im feeling very depressed right now. Im having problems at home. In school i can be very happy.But once i get in back in the gate of my house, my smile turns into a frown. I cant do this anymore. 2 me everything i do is wrong. I feel like commiting suicide. Can someone please help me.

Answer 1

Sister, relax first....
You see the normal reaction to any situation is basic...
Stimulus and response... right?
Now there was an experiment about a dog that the scientist would ring a bell and the dog would be given food. They continued for months. Then the scientist still kept on ringing the bell, but there was no food. He checked the dog and it would salivate everytime... It is natural...
Maybe, you have that habit born out of depression or your own thinking.
You need to remember that between the stimulus and response we have a "response-ability" (Thanks Stephen Covey!!!) You would choose what you are going to respond to any situation... We are unlike the dog who has no control over themselves...

You were given a gift that cannot be taken away from you.... CHOICE!!! How you use it, how you want to use it, if you want to take responsibility for it, if you want to make the best out of it is up to YOU... You choose. everytime. anywhere. any situation.
If a gun is pointed point-blank in your face, what will you do? stare blankly? cry? smile? laugh? You see in any situation you choose your response. It is a responsibility.

Another thing that might help you.... if you remember a man said this, i forgot his name. He said that hammers tend to think that all things are nails. They only see in others their inner inadequacy... So if people inside your house thinks that way... they do everything that way. They will never see the beautiful sunday morning sunlight through the window. They will never see that you got 45 answers correctly, but see that you got 55 answers wrong! They can never find that you are beautiful within... because they think they are not beautiful or talented or skillful or equal to any task... You need to have a look at yourself first and see anything wrong... then see others as also doing things wrong and you decide how you want to change it.
I have that kind of family too... but I chose differently and now everyone loves each other, because I started something... When will you start my friend... the world is big...

We think much less than what we know.
We know much less than what we love.
We love much less than what there is...
To this precise extent we are much less than what we can be...

You can be more than what you are right now...
I hope you see that...
I love you my dear friend, even if I will never see you.

Answer 2

You need to consult with some one. Now consult doesnt mean exactly with a psychiatrist, but that can be any one trustworthy to you. Now here you just mentioned your feelings, your dissapointment, but not exactly your problem so that any one can suggest a solution to it. It may be a domistic prob, you dont wanna share here, that is ok, but if you want to feel your being, your life importance, and you really want to live-leading a happy life of your age, then you need to talk to some one. If that does not help, or you cant fins some one whom you can talk with and get rid of your tough hours or feelings, then try writig down. And then later as you feel your mind is a bit calm and you are in a right state of taking decisions or making things look to you better, then read your writings and think about what possible solutions you can think of and make them your decision.

Beside all these, to help yourself, try to keep yourself busy with some activities after school. And when you are home try reading different books, you learn alot from books too. Also try some youga at your free times or when you feel down or try to dance. You will feel much better and calm then. Good luck!

But keep onething in mind, commiting suside is never a solution to any problem. That is mere cowardness.

Answer 3

Sounds like you have some problems at home. Is there an adult at school you trust enough to talk to? Or an older freind or relative, perhaps the parent of a school friend that you trust? It would help to talk to someone - a real person - about what's going on at home that's making you feel so bad and they might be able to do something to help.

If someone is telling you not to talk to anyone, you definitely should - there is *no reason* for a child to keep an adult's secret!!

Answer 4

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 5

PLEASE PLEASE DO NOT COMMITE !

i know things may seem bad but take your problems and all the areas of your life to the Lord. He WILL help.

Maybe you should try to find an after school activity. Join some prgram with a church or school.