Although I am here to listen to her, I don't feel able to advise, apart from suggesting she seeks professional help. I am glad she feels able to talk to me and want her to continue to do so for as long as she is comfortable with doing so. But I understand my limitations with providing the help she may require.
Please advise.
2007-01-31 22:51:39 · 14 answers · asked by Mike G 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I always thought that the starting point in things like this was to tell the police.
2007-01-31 23:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by wunceinawhile 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so awful, it's good though that she has chosen to tell you about it. Try and focus on the positive: that she chose to tell you, she obviously feels that you are kind and trustworthy and that she wants to talk to you about it. Maybe she just wants someone to listen to her, not necessarily give heavy handed advice. I would keep suggesting she gets some professional help, but obviously you can't force her into it. I don't know whether she's told anyone else about this? If she hasn't, it may be that talking to you is her first step and in time she will get more help. So i appreciate it must be tough for you to hear her tell you these horrible things, and not be able to provide an answer, but i'm not sure whether she even expects you to solve it for her. I know it's old advice, but just carry on listening, encourage her to see a counsellor/police if she feels able to, and be there for her. All the best x
2007-02-01 00:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by Nikita21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a serious situation and it needs a professional help by someone like psychiatrist so she may able to understand what would be the things she needs (ur female friend) to maintain her mental aspect, the tauma is in there im sure for that, if you were raped by one or many is not a joke. In addition, i think you need to see a doctor, a police for help to solved this problem, in social workers so she can have justice of what had happened to her. Thats good, you did your part as his true friend keep advising her and dont leave her because she needs your presence she needs someone to lean on. someone to talk with, and someone to understand her...so good luck to both of you i wish that she will have her justice sooner..
2007-01-31 23:06:21 · answer #3 · answered by mcjames d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
***Dont think I've seen any decent answers here.I'm in a similar boat mate,I've got a close friend who is a rape victim.Your best bet Would be to seek professional advise.But ask her if she wants to,she might not want to as professional enviroments Can seem intimidating but then again,these guys are the experts.Do some research on a techique called "EMDR".Just heard about it recently and its got a high success rate.
Good luck!
2007-02-01 12:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by tam cowan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound as if you are doing the best you can within your own limitations, keep encouraging her to get counselling, maybe you could research an appropriate help site. Then just keep on listening; she may not actually want advice, just the opportunity to unburden her feelings.
2007-01-31 22:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you!!! She may indeed need a professional to talk with her. Be there and be supportive. Rape is a brutal and traumatizing crime, most of the damage is not seen but felt....She needs a "safe" shoulder, Your on the right track
2007-01-31 22:57:42 · answer #6 · answered by filch_felonious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that but the best and only solution is to forget the past and think ahead and lead new life.Keep busy and be friends with close friends,relatives and workmates. Do not go to parties and get drunk,go to parties but do not drink.learn new skill ,yoga will do wonders for social and mentally and physically.keep mind fresh and read your prayer book and this will help.
2007-01-31 23:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by Bikram rai 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just lend her an ear to listen & a shoulder to cry on. Outside of that & suggesting professional help, there is really nothing that you can do.
2007-02-01 06:01:42 · answer #8 · answered by leashell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are doing the right thing being there for her to listen suggesting she sheed professional help. I would say just keep doing what you are doing.
2007-01-31 22:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by thatoneguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing an immensly wonderful job. I believe she needs professional councelling. But your support is really laudable.
Good luck, with friends like you, she is already saved!
2007-01-31 23:00:44 · answer #10 · answered by usha4pillai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋